You're constantly frustrated. She won't respect boundaries. He won't stand up to her. The kids ignore you. Nobody does what they should do, and you're stuck feeling angry, disappointed, and resentful about it all.

In this episode, I reveal the surprising reason you feel so miserable – and it's not what you think. While you've been focused on the high conflict ex's toxic behaviour, there's something else quietly stealing your peace. It’s your "Manual” – a set of unwritten rules you have about how everyone should behave so you can be happy.

The problem? When people don't follow these rules (and they don't), you're guaranteed to feel disappointed, angry, disrespected, deflated.

I'll walk you through why these hidden expectations create so much suffering, especially when dealing with a toxic ex.

You'll see how you've accidentally handed over control of your emotions to her, and more importantly, learn a practical process for taking it back – without her needing to change her behaviour.

This isn't about becoming a doormat or having no boundaries – it's about taking back control of how you feel, regardless of what anyone else does.

👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/the-manual

Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health advice.