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Navigating Relationship Conflict: Healing Through Connection | Dr. Ryan Seedall | #131
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Dr. Ryan Seedall draws on his 20+ years of experience as a therapist to share insights about relationship conflict patterns and the role of attachment in marriage dynamics. He provides practical pointers to strengthen marriage connections, including how to navigate the demand-withdraw cycle and use anger productively.
• Healthy marriages require not just absence of negative interactions but presence of positive ones
• Couples need to recover from conflict, not just learn how to argue better
• The demand-withdraw pattern creates a cycle where one person's behavior triggers the exact response they're trying to avoid
• "Signal and respond" describes how partners communicate needs and respond to each other
• Anger serves as a protest signal that something needs attention, not necessarily a destructive force
• Technology creates new challenges for couples, with text arguments losing crucial nonverbal cues
• Mixed-faith marriages require special navigation of differing beliefs and values
• Early intervention is crucial - addressing small issues before they become entrenched patterns
• Attunement to partner's emotional state builds trust and connection
• Vulnerability, when met with responsiveness, creates deeper intimacy
Remember, it's the small things that create a stronger marriage connection. Find more resources at StrongerMarriage.org, including workshops, e-courses, webinars and relationship surveys.
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Chapters
1. Introduction to Ryan Seedall (00:00:00)
2. Welcome Ryan Seedall (00:01:23)
3. What Makes Healthy Marriages? (00:02:24)
4. Navigating Conflicts in Marriage (00:06:26)
5. Demand With Draw Pattern (00:08:49)
6. Correlations To Relationship Patterns (00:11:33)
7. Learning To Recognize and Manage Our Own Triggers (00:15:17)
8. [Ad] Recharge with David Ko (00:16:57)
9. Signal & Response (00:17:35)
10. (Cont.) Learning To Recognize and Manage Our Own Triggers (00:17:35)
11. Being Attuned to Our Partners Needs (00:22:01)
12. The Destructive Role of Anger (00:24:31)
13. Ways to Connect and Bond in Relationships (00:29:10)
14. How Have Challenges and Conflicts Changed (00:31:33)
15. Newlywed Struggles (00:36:32)
16. The Key To A Stronger Marriage (00:38:48)
17. [Ad] Recharge with David Ko, CEO of Calm (00:39:01)
18. (Cont.) The Key To A Stronger Marriage (00:39:39)
19. Ryan's Resources (00:43:36)
20. Ryan's Takeaway (00:44:40)
21. Liz's Takeaway (00:46:53)
22. Dave's Takeaway (00:47:15)
23. Closing (00:48:17)
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