The Sneaky Way Your Past is Picking Your Partners w/ Dr. Christie Kederian EP 104

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❤️ The Date Doctor is Here!

In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpose.

Key Moments

🎯 [02:04] The unique perspective of a therapist-matchmaker and the importance of having expert guidance in relationship choices

🎯 [05:09] Understanding family dynamics and how they shape our relationship patterns

🎯 [09:42] How to have vulnerable conversations about your past without oversharing

🎯 [17:54] Reading relationship red flags through someone's response to boundaries

🎯 [22:37] The truth about chemistry: It's more than just physical attraction 🎯 [29:58] Why over-filtering potential partners might be blocking you from finding love

🎯 [32:39] The role of attachment styles in relationship dynamics

Golden Nuggets

💎 Chemistry isn't just about initial spark - it develops over time and has multiple dimensions

💎 It typically takes women 5-7 dates to truly sense chemistry with someone

💎 Your family background influences your relationship patterns, whether you're close to them or not

💎 The "village mentality" is crucial for healthy relationships - don't expect your partner to be everything

💎 True empathy is a key indicator of relationship potential

About Our Guest

Dr. Christie Kederian is a renowned relationship therapist and former eHarmony matchmaker known as "The Date Doctor." Her upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate" provides a strategic roadmap for finding and maintaining healthy relationships.

Action Steps for Listeners

Practice sharing vulnerable information progressively rather than all at once
Notice how potential partners respond to your boundaries
Look beyond surface-level chemistry to explore emotional and intellectual connections
Consider how your family background influences your relationship patterns
Focus on one date at a time instead of immediately evaluating long-term potential

Notable Quotes

"Chemistry has a lot more to do with the connection with someone over a period of time... There's physical chemistry, emotional chemistry, intellectual chemistry." - Dr. Christie Kederian

"How someone responds when you communicate that you're triggered... that's where really the beautiful corrective emotional experience happens." - Dr. Christie Kederian

Perfect For Listeners Who:

Are actively dating and feeling overwhelmed by the process
Want to understand how their family background affects their relationships
Struggle with vulnerability and sharing their past
Are seeking to build deeper, more meaningful connections
Want to understand the true nature of chemistry and compatibili

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