Things I Wished I Knew Sooner: (Episode 1) Boundaries are not Rude.
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Boundaries are not rude. They’re not selfish. They’re not disrespectful. They’re necessary.
Firstly: What Are Boundaries?
Boundaries are the invisible lines that protect your time, energy, and emotional space. They’re how you teach people to treat you. But here’s the twist—most of us were never taught how to set them.
- Saying “no” without guilt
- Asking for space in a relationship
- Refusing to answer work calls after hours
Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors. You decide who walks through and when.”
Secondly: Why We Struggle With Boundaries
For many of us, especially in African households, saying ‘no’ feels like rebellion. We’re taught to be obedient, available, and self-sacrificing.”
Common fears:
- Fear of being seen as rude
- Fear of losing relationships
- Fear of confrontation
But here’s the truth: People who respect you will respect your boundaries.
Thirdly :Boundaries in Relationships
Boundaries aren’t just for work—they’re vital in love, family, and friendships.
Examples:
- Telling a friend you need time before replying
- Asking a partner not to raise their voice during arguments
- Letting family know you won’t tolerate disrespect
Boundaries don’t push people away—they show them how to love you better.”
Fourthly: How to Set Boundaries Without Drama
how to set boundaries without guilt or drama.
Tips:
1. Be clear and direct – “I’m not available after 8 PM.”
2. Use ‘I’ statements – “I feel overwhelmed when I’m expected to respond immediately.”
3. Stay calm – You don’t need to justify your boundary.
4. Repeat if necessary – Boundaries often need reinforcement.
Boundaries aren’t one-time announcements,they’re habits.
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