In today’s episode, I sit down with therapist, author, and all-around brilliant human Jason, whose work spans trauma recovery, relationships, high performers, and helping people finally get unstuck.

Jason opens up about his years working with everyone from child soldiers to Navy SEALs to everyday couples who feel trapped in the same painful patterns. We walk through the real process of getting unstuck — not the vague “do the work” advice, but the actual steps: connecting past experiences to present behavior, understanding your narrative, grieving what you hoped life would be, and creating a new story that moves you forward.

Whether you’re navigating marriage challenges, struggling with unmet expectations, or trying to grow without losing yourself, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:53 – Why relationships are the lifeblood of our lives
03:03 – Why people stay stuck
06:10 – How to trace your “stuck” feeling back to a past moment
08:42 – Being “too much” — and how context changes everything
11:15 – Choices in marriage and what healthy people do
13:04 – “Can I love someone at their own pace?”
14:58 – Why safety is required before change happens
16:13 – Grieving the dream you didn't get
18:19 – When making peace is not settling
19:20 – What to do when someone won’t meet you halfway
20:07 – Changing your narrative and being open to changing it again
21:09 – Why cringing at your past is actually a sign of growth

Connect with Jason:

📸 Instagram: jason.vanruler
📹 Website: www.jasonvr.com
🎵 Facebook: Jason VanRuler

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