Do you and your partner ever feel like you’re speaking different languages?
In this episode, America’s leading therapist Jason VanRuler breaks down the five communication types that shape every relationship — and how to speak so that the other person truly feels loved, heard, and understood.

We also dive into relationship renegotiation, emotional depth, parenting dynamics, workplace communication, and the science of emotional connection.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 — Most communication advice gets it wrong
0:22 — Welcome back: conversation with Jason VanRuler
1:10 — Why some people connect deeper, faster
2:59 — The Who & Why: the emotional depth levels
3:48 — The four levels of emotional understanding
4:18 — Relationship renegotiation in marriage
5:34 — Why honoring the “old way” stops growth
6:35 — How to begin a renegotiation conversation
7:32 — This applies in the workplace too
8:41 — Intro to the 5 PATH communication types
9:28 — The Peacemaker (P)
9:28 — The Advocate (A)
9:28 — The Thinker (T)
9:28 — The Harbor (H)
9:28 — The Spark (S)
11:55 — Example: Jason is a Harbor, his wife is a Thinker
12:50 — How polarity causes conflict
13:18 — Why we connect easily with people like us
13:32 — Why we marry our opposite
14:20 — We love the difference first — then resent it
14:57 — Creating the PATH assessment
15:05 — Couples vs corporate application
15:22 — Speaking to someone in their style, not yours
16:00 — When does the assessment release?
17:07 — What makes a healthy relationship?
17:36 — Parent/child communication & differences
19:53 — Estrangement and the refusal to validate perspective

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