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Ep217. The Expectation Gap — The Real Reason You’re Not Getting What You Want.

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In this episode, Mike breaks down one of the most important — and misunderstood — principles of manifestation: you don’t get what you want… you get what you expect. He dives deep into how expectations are wired into your nervous system, why your ego, subconscious, and body are the same thing, and how negative expectations sabotage success even when you’re doing everything “right.” This is a masterclass in energetic alignment and internal reprogramming — straight from the front lines of personal evolution.

Key Takeaways

  1. You Don’t Get What You Want — You Get What You Expect
    Until your nervous system believes it’s safe to receive, it will sabotage anything that doesn’t feel familiar.
  2. Your Nervous System, Ego, and Subconscious Are All the Same Thing
    They're just different words for the same internal wiring — the filter through which you create reality.
  3. Your Nervous System Was Formed Before You Could Choose
    Childhood beliefs and family patterns shaped your expectations — and they still run the show.
  4. Self-Sabotage Is Just Expectation Misalignment
    If you want more than you expect to receive, you’ll subconsciously push it away when it shows up.
  5. The Work Is in the Body
    Shadow work, meditation, future embodiment — these aren’t mindset tools, they’re nervous system tools.

Notable Quotes

  • “You can't have whatever you want, because you get what you expect.”
  • “Your nervous system, your ego, and your subconscious are all the same things.”
  • “If you're used to struggling financially, your nervous system literally wants to keep you there because it knows how to operate there.”
  • “What I haven't done a great job of is, what do you want? And then dig a layer deeper and say, listen — what do you really expect to have?”
  • “In the battle between your wants and your expectations, your expectations will win every time.”

Call to Action

📘 Inner World, Outer World is available now on Amazon —
This book is the map. Your nervous system is the terrain.
👉 Order Now
🔥 Upcoming Experiences:

This is where the dream becomes real.

Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

My Social Media:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko
Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko
Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.

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Chapters

1. Creating Impact and Inner Wealth (00:00:00)

2. Wants vs. Expectations: The Core Truth (00:07:24)

3. Your Nervous System's Hidden Agenda (00:12:44)

4. Nervous System, Ego, and Subconscious (00:16:54)

5. Why Pessimistic Expectations Win (00:20:34)

6. Rearranging Your Nervous System (00:25:24)

218 episodes

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Send me a Text Message!

In this episode, Mike breaks down one of the most important — and misunderstood — principles of manifestation: you don’t get what you want… you get what you expect. He dives deep into how expectations are wired into your nervous system, why your ego, subconscious, and body are the same thing, and how negative expectations sabotage success even when you’re doing everything “right.” This is a masterclass in energetic alignment and internal reprogramming — straight from the front lines of personal evolution.

Key Takeaways

  1. You Don’t Get What You Want — You Get What You Expect
    Until your nervous system believes it’s safe to receive, it will sabotage anything that doesn’t feel familiar.
  2. Your Nervous System, Ego, and Subconscious Are All the Same Thing
    They're just different words for the same internal wiring — the filter through which you create reality.
  3. Your Nervous System Was Formed Before You Could Choose
    Childhood beliefs and family patterns shaped your expectations — and they still run the show.
  4. Self-Sabotage Is Just Expectation Misalignment
    If you want more than you expect to receive, you’ll subconsciously push it away when it shows up.
  5. The Work Is in the Body
    Shadow work, meditation, future embodiment — these aren’t mindset tools, they’re nervous system tools.

Notable Quotes

  • “You can't have whatever you want, because you get what you expect.”
  • “Your nervous system, your ego, and your subconscious are all the same things.”
  • “If you're used to struggling financially, your nervous system literally wants to keep you there because it knows how to operate there.”
  • “What I haven't done a great job of is, what do you want? And then dig a layer deeper and say, listen — what do you really expect to have?”
  • “In the battle between your wants and your expectations, your expectations will win every time.”

Call to Action

📘 Inner World, Outer World is available now on Amazon —
This book is the map. Your nervous system is the terrain.
👉 Order Now
🔥 Upcoming Experiences:

This is where the dream becomes real.

Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

My Social Media:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko
Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko
Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Creating Impact and Inner Wealth (00:00:00)

2. Wants vs. Expectations: The Core Truth (00:07:24)

3. Your Nervous System's Hidden Agenda (00:12:44)

4. Nervous System, Ego, and Subconscious (00:16:54)

5. Why Pessimistic Expectations Win (00:20:34)

6. Rearranging Your Nervous System (00:25:24)

218 episodes

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