Ever find yourself overthinking a simple text message, spiraling into anxiety, and wondering, “Why do I always do this?”

Relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or professional—can trigger our deepest insecurities. But here’s the good news: you can break that cycle. And in this episode of The Happy Hustle Podcast, we’re diving deep into how.

I chat with Trevor Hanson, a globally recognized coach and therapist who helps people transform anxious attachment into secure, soul-filling relationships. This dude is the real deal. After leaving a corporate career at Tesla, healing from a broken jaw, ending a toxic relationship, and overcoming his own deep insecurities, Trevor followed his passion to help others heal. Now, he teaches people around the world how to break free from the patterns holding them back—using his powerful “TEMPO” framework.

In our convo, we get real about self-sabotage, emotional triggers, and those frustrating cycles of conflict we find ourselves stuck in. Trevor explains how childhood trauma and early experiences shape our beliefs about love, worthiness, and connection—and how those beliefs often lead us to repeat the same painful patterns. But most importantly, he shows us how to map those cycles, gain clarity, and change them.

Here are a few game-changing nuggets from this episode:

Self-sabotage isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. It often stems from anxious attachment and unhealed childhood wounds.
You can shift from insecurity to confidence by learning your “tempo” cycle: Trigger, Emotion, Meaning, Protection, Outcome.
Healing starts by mapping emotional responses before you’re in the heat of the moment. That’s where clarity is born.
Inner child work, visualization, and therapy can help release the old beliefs that keep you stuck.
Relationships thrive when both partners take ownership and commit to their growth journey.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone tired of the emotional rollercoaster and ready to build healthier, more connected relationships. Whether you’re a high-performing entrepreneur or just someone looking for love that feels safe—you’ll walk away with practical tools you can start using right now.

Let’s Happy Hustle your healing. You deserve secure, connected relationships—and it all starts with understanding you.

In this episode, we cover:
Introduction to Healing Relationships
Trevor's Journey: From Corporate to Therapy
Understanding Anxious Attachment
The Catalyst for Change
The Transition to Therapy
Identifying Relationship Patterns
The Cycle of Insecurity and Self-Sabotage
Breaking the Cycle: The TEMPO Framework
Empowerment in Relationships
The Vicious Cycle of Relationships
Understanding the Tempo Cycle
Mapping Emotional Triggers
The Impact of Childhood Trauma
Navigating Insecurities and Fears
Releasing Emotional Wounds
Resources for Healing and Growth
Rapid Fire Insights and Final Thoughts

What does Happy Hustlin mean to you?
Trevor says Happy Hustlin means to me being anxiously engaged in a good cause that provides me with an opportunity to lift others while blessing the lives of those who matter most to me, meaning my wife and my children.

Connect with Trevor
https://www.facebook.com/theartofhealingbytrevor/
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https://www.youtube.com/@artofhealingbytrevor
https://www.tiktok.com/@theartofhealingbytrevor

Find Trevor on this website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/

Connect with Cary!
https://www.instagram.com/caryjack/
https://www.facebook.com/SirCaryJack
https://www.linkedin.com/in/cary-jack-kendzior/
https://twitter.com/thehappyhustle
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFDNsD59tLxv2JfEuSsNMOQ/featured

Get a free copy of his new book, The Happy Hustle, 10 Alignments to Avoid Burnout & Achieve Blissful Balance https://www.thehappyhustle.com/book
Sign up for The Journey: 10 Days To Become a Happy Hustler Online Coursehttps://thehappyhustle.com/thejourney/
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“It’s time to Happy Hustle, a blissfully balanced life you love, full of passion, purpose, and positive impact!”

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