Why You Don’t Need More Discipline — You Need Better Strategy
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In today’s episode, Jeni dives into one of the biggest misconceptions she hears from creatives, florists, and women building businesses: “I’m just not disciplined.”
Spoiler:
Lack of discipline isn’t what’s holding you back — misaligned identity and missing strategy are.
Jeni shares how our bodies cling tightly to old identities, why change feels like danger, and how trying to bulldoze your way into new habits with sheer willpower is the reason most goals collapse.
Instead, she walks through the exact process she’s used in her own life to rebuild her identity — from quitting a 1600-calorie-a-day Mountain Dew habit, to losing weight, to becoming someone who actually likes working out, to managing a family, a farm, and a business without constant overwhelm.
Inside this episode you’ll hear:
🌼 Why discipline feels so freaking hard
Our bodies are wired to protect old identity patterns — even the unhealthy ones.
🌼 How to shift your identity without self-punishment
What it really takes to become a healthier, stronger, more organized version of yourself.
🌼 The “staggered change” method
— The baby-step strategy Jeni uses with EVERYTHING (from caffeine to CrossFit).
— Why going “0 to 100” always backfires.
— How to make change feel safe and sustainable.
🌼 Real-life examples:
— The slow transition from Mountain Dew to Diet Mountain Dew to baby cans.
— What happened the day she thought she was having a heart attack.
— How she became someone who lifts weights, shovels, moves wheelbarrows, and wrangles farm animals without needing help.
— The systems she uses to run her business without living in reaction mode.
🌼 Why strategy beats discipline every time
And how simple planning (weekly mapping, Calendly, pre-deciding meals, accountability partners) can completely transform your life and business.
🌼 What most florists get wrong about goal-setting
…and why shiny-object syndrome keeps so many wedding pros from actually moving forward.
🌼 A sneak peek into the upcoming Floral CEO Mastermind
Next month: All things wedding planners
January: building your 2026 business plan
Plus an honest look at what’s actually working in your business vs. what just feels good in the moment.
🌺 Perfect for anyone who is…
- Tired of “trying harder” and getting nowhere
- Over the guilt and shame of “not being disciplined”
- Ready to create a sustainable identity-based change
- A florist or creative entrepreneur juggling way too much
- Ready to build systems that support the life + business they want
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