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Guest:

Jamie Butemeyer is a transformational mastery coach + movement facilitator, and former musical theater artist whose coaching practice exists at the intersection of artistry and entrepreneurship. Based in Aspen, Colorado, Jamie’s client roster includes women CEOs, billionaires, and leaders of all kinds, working one-on-one and in group formats. Her signature program, “Leading Lady,” helps women step out of the background and into the main stage of their lives. Jamie is the head female coach for the Elected Leaders Collective and the co-creator of the Body Alive practice at Aspen Shakti, transforming bodies and lives nationwide. She is also a certified breathwork facilitator.

Her journey includes achievements as a prestigious University of Oklahoma’s theater program graduate and a Miss Teen Oklahoma title. Jamie’s mission as a coach is to help individuals step into their most authentic, empowered selves through emotional mastery and personal transformation.

About the Episode:

In this episode, I sit down with the best human I know, my better half and partner in life and love, Jamie Butemeyer.

We discuss the intersection of authenticity, leadership, emotional intelligence, and success. We delve into Jamie’s background, growing up in Lawton, Oklahoma, and being on stage as a beauty queen from a young age. We talk about childhood patterns and the unconscious programming she picked up as a little one. Jamie shares where her insecurities and limiting beliefs held her back from becoming the Broadway star in NYC she wanted to be but ultimately planted the seeds of her success. Jamie talks about how making big bets on herself paid off and reflects on how embracing emotions, owning her fear, and cultivating emotional mastery skills freed her to become the world-class coach and leader of leaders she is today —all essential skills for leaders like you in high-stakes environments.

We dive into practices like nonviolent communication, somatic awareness, and the power of community to foster healing and connection. Jamie offers unique insights into being a partner to a public servant and what she learned about how you, as a spouse or partner, can contribute to a conscious relationship that safeguards and supercharges the relationship and your service.

This episode is a heartfelt invitation to claim your fullest potential by integrating the full human experience into your leadership. Jamie has been right here with me, helping me find the courage, compassion, and authenticity to be here with you today, and I know in her wisdom that you will find more of these things for yourself.

**Content Advisory: SA is discussed beginning at [01:06:03] and ending at [01:06:51]**

Key Topics Discussed:

· [00:01:50] Episode Overview

· [00:04:13] Guest Introduction

· [00:06:42] Early life in Oklahoma

· [00:09:09] Miss Oklahoma

· [00:10:53] Young Jamie stood out

· [00:13:52] Personas and masks

· [00:15:37] When is it time to hang it up?

· [00:18:34] Paralyzed by fear

· [00:19:39] Kobe Bryant’s keys to success

· [00:21:21] The efficacy of unconditional lover

· [00:25:46] Lifestyle to support goals

· [00:27:42] Learning from my past

· [00:29:09] Working with fear

· [00:30:53] Knowing what I know now

· [00:31:34] Feel it to free it

· [00:33:40] Make BIG: bet on yourself

· [00:36:51] Are you ready to die?

· [00:39:24] What is a transformational coach?

· [00:42:10] What does one do in coaching?

· [00:43:40] Unconscious emotional suppression

· [00:46:00] SPONSOR: ELC

· [00:48:25] Avoidant behaviors

· [00:51:46] Emotional Indulgence

· [00:55:03] Finding Balance

· [00:57:45] Owning your fears

· [00:59:12] Effective confrontation

· [01:00:30] 4 F’s of the nervous system - fight, flight, freeze, faun

· [01:03:00] “Poet Lauriet” Macklemore

· [01:04:25] Victim to empowerment mindset

· [01:05:22] Happening for you, not to you

· [01:06:03] Podcast: Suffering to Strength: Ashley Grimmel on Transmuting Pressure into Power, Resilience, and Health

· [01:07:16] Caroline Myss; archetype work

· [01:08:00] Nonviolent communication framework

· [01:11:15] The fire of love

· [01:14:25] The partner/spouse of public leaders experience

· [01:18:59] Supporting yourself as a partner

· [01:20:56] Approaches to support your partner

· [01:22:50] “The third entity” - Family first

· [01:24:20] Work/life harmony

· [01:25:14] Abundant time use

· [01:27:12] Closing question: Feel your feelings!

· [01:28:40] “The Leader’s Handbook” Newsletter

· [01:29:43] Sponsor: ELC

Key References and Resources Mentioned:

· [00:04:50] Leading Lady

· [00:05:07] Body Alive @ Aspen Shakti

· [00:05:30] University of Oklahoma

· [00:05:37] Miss Teen Oklahoma, Miss Oklahoma, Miss America

· [00:06:50] Lawton, Oklahoma

· [00:17:20] World Tour

· [00:19:38] Natalie Hummel

· [00:19:39] Kobe Bryant’s 10 Rules for Success

· [00:39:24] Transformational Coaching

· [00:43:25] Emotional Mastery

· [00:45:00] Alcohol as an Emotional Suppressant

· [00:46:00] SPONSOR: ELC

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