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💡 From “I Should” to “I Could”: Releasing Shame and Reclaiming Choice

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Have you ever noticed how a simple shift in language can completely transform how you feel? In this enlightening episode, I share a powerful insight from my conversation with the incredibly talented Kristen Anderson Lopez about what I call "energetic choice."
We dive deep into the transformative power of shifting from "I should" (which keeps us trapped in shame) to "I could" (which places us in capability) and finally to "Do I want to?" (which restores our power of choice). This simple but profound linguistic shift completely changes our relationship with ourselves and our decisions. Through personal examples and practical wisdom, we explore how these subtle language changes can liberate us from shame-based thinking and reconnect us with our authentic desires.
The conversation naturally extends to how we perceive others. We discuss the liberating truth that everyone is always doing their best in any given moment with the resources they have available. Rather than judging the person looking at their phone while walking up subway stairs, what if we engaged our imagination to create empathetic possibilities about their situation? This creative reframing not only exercises our empathy muscles but prevents us from creating unnecessary suffering for ourselves through judgment.
This episode offers a refreshing perspective on how language shapes our reality and how small shifts in thinking can create profound changes in our daily experience. Whether you're struggling with self-judgment or finding yourself irritated by others, these insights provide practical tools for bringing more compassion, choice, and even playfulness into challenging moments. Stay tuned for the full conversation with Kristen Anderson Lopez dropping next week on "Stop Time Live in the Moment" – but in the meantime, this nugget of wisdom might just transform how you move through your day.

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🌟 **Interested in finding out more about working with Lisa Hopkins? Want to share your feedback or be considered as a guest on the show?**
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Chapters

1. Introduction to Energetic Choice (00:00:00)

2. From Should to Could Without Shame (00:01:46)

3. Reframing Judgment with Empathy (00:02:28)

4. Using Imagination to Overcome Annoyance (00:03:33)

5. Why Create Your Own Suffering? (00:04:12)

348 episodes

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Content provided by Lisa Hopkins, Wide Open Stages, Lisa Hopkins, and Wide Open Stages. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Lisa Hopkins, Wide Open Stages, Lisa Hopkins, and Wide Open Stages or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Let us know what you enjoy about the show!

Have you ever noticed how a simple shift in language can completely transform how you feel? In this enlightening episode, I share a powerful insight from my conversation with the incredibly talented Kristen Anderson Lopez about what I call "energetic choice."
We dive deep into the transformative power of shifting from "I should" (which keeps us trapped in shame) to "I could" (which places us in capability) and finally to "Do I want to?" (which restores our power of choice). This simple but profound linguistic shift completely changes our relationship with ourselves and our decisions. Through personal examples and practical wisdom, we explore how these subtle language changes can liberate us from shame-based thinking and reconnect us with our authentic desires.
The conversation naturally extends to how we perceive others. We discuss the liberating truth that everyone is always doing their best in any given moment with the resources they have available. Rather than judging the person looking at their phone while walking up subway stairs, what if we engaged our imagination to create empathetic possibilities about their situation? This creative reframing not only exercises our empathy muscles but prevents us from creating unnecessary suffering for ourselves through judgment.
This episode offers a refreshing perspective on how language shapes our reality and how small shifts in thinking can create profound changes in our daily experience. Whether you're struggling with self-judgment or finding yourself irritated by others, these insights provide practical tools for bringing more compassion, choice, and even playfulness into challenging moments. Stay tuned for the full conversation with Kristen Anderson Lopez dropping next week on "Stop Time Live in the Moment" – but in the meantime, this nugget of wisdom might just transform how you move through your day.

If you are enjoying the show please subscribe, share and review! Word of mouth is incredibly impactful and your support is much appreciated!

Support the show

🌟✨📚 **Buy 'The Places Where There Are Spaces: Cultivating A Life of Creative Possibilities'** 📚✨🌟
Dive into a world where spontaneity leads to creativity and discover personal essays that inspire with journal space to reflect. Click the link below to grab your copy today and embark on a journey of self-discovery and unexpected joys! 🌈👇
🔗 Purchase Your Copy Here: https://a.co/d/2UlsmYC
🌟 **Interested in finding out more about working with Lisa Hopkins? Want to share your feedback or be considered as a guest on the show?**
🔗 Visit Wide Open Stages https://www.wideopenstages.com

📸 **Follow Lisa on Instagram:** @wideopenstages https://www.instagram.com/wideopenstages/
💖 **SUPPORT THE SHOW:** [Buy Me a Coffee] https://www.buymeacoffee.com/STOPTIME
🎵 **STOPTIME Theme Music by Philip David Stern**
🔗 [Listen on Spotify]
https://open.spotify.com/artist/57A87Um5vok0uEtM8vWpKM?si=JOx7r1iVSbqAHezG4PjiPg

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Introduction to Energetic Choice (00:00:00)

2. From Should to Could Without Shame (00:01:46)

3. Reframing Judgment with Empathy (00:02:28)

4. Using Imagination to Overcome Annoyance (00:03:33)

5. Why Create Your Own Suffering? (00:04:12)

348 episodes

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