Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E83: Pick Me Panic: BPD and Desperate Bids for Connection

In this episode of Borderline in Wonderland, we tumble into the frantic corners of connection—where the fear of being unwanted turns into a desperate need to be chosen.

“Pick Me Panic” explores how Borderline Personality Disorder can twist relationships into emotional battlegrounds, where every look, text, or silence feels like a test you’re terrified of failing.

With the Wonderland lens in hand, we step into the shoes of characters who shout to be seen, morph to be loved, and spiral when they’re not picked—because sometimes, just existing doesn’t feel like enough.

From emotional shape-shifting to people-pleasing to clinging to crumbs of attention, we unpack the aching need to belong that so often gets misread as manipulation.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn your place in someone’s life—or feared that not being picked meant being erased—this episode offers reflection, resonance, and a reminder that you are not alone.