Episode 54 - Why Loving Who You've Been Can Change Everything
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Self-hatred doesn't just damage us internally; it radiates outward, affecting our relationships and perpetuating cycles of pain across generations. When we can't forgive ourselves for past mistakes, we limit our capacity to love others cleanly and completely, creating ripple effects that touch everyone in our lives.
• Self-hatred often serves as a mask for deeper pain or unmet needs
• People love to their level of self-love, communicate to their level of self-awareness, and behave to their level of healed trauma
• We unfairly judge our past actions through the lens of our present wisdom
• Self-forgiveness isn't letting yourself off the hook—it's reclaiming your power to choose differently
• You cannot grow if you're still at war with the person you once were
• Breaking cycles of self-hatred requires understanding what this hatred is protecting
• Getting curious instead of cruel about our past actions is the first step toward healing
Resources:
Podcast: Roots of the Rise Episode 6 – Curiosity Required
Podcast: Roots of the Rise Episode 10 – Two things (of the many) needed for Acceptance
Podcast: Roots of the Rise Episode 11 – Forgiveness and one way to get the apology you always wanted
Podcast: Armchair Expert with Blaise Aguirre (on overcoming self-hatred)
Book: calling in “the one” by Katherine Woodward Thomas
Book: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Chapters
1. Episode 54 - Why Loving Who You've Been Can Change Everything (00:00:00)
2. Real-life examples of self-punishment cycles (00:00:40)
3. Understanding what's beneath self-hatred (00:07:09)
4. Self-forgiveness is reclaiming your power (00:11:45)
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