Scooch Over: The Art of Taking Up Space Without Apology
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Have you ever caught yourself shrinking to keep the peace? Bite your tongue when your gut is screaming otherwise? Maybe you've been told to tone down your shine or smooth out your edges. That stops now.
This episode is your permission slip to blow the walls out of that tiny box you were never meant to fit in. I'm sharing my own turning point – standing in my kitchen, paralyzed with anxiety over cleaning a tea infuser, when my higher self essentially said, "Oh hell no, we did not come here for this." That moment sparked my transformation from invisible people-pleaser to authentically taking up space.
Let's get real: people pleasing isn't about kindness – it's about control. It's a survival strategy where we manage how others perceive us to create safety. Neurologically, your brain interprets potential rejection as threat, triggering cortisol and adrenaline. But peace at the expense of your values isn't peace – it's performance. Taking up space means existing fully without apology. It's saying no without a PowerPoint presentation justifying your decision. It's asking for what you need without guilt. It's sharing your ideas even when your voice shakes.
Through neuroplasticity, you can literally rewire your response to discomfort. Each empowered choice creates a new neural pathway, turning once-overgrown trails of self-doubt into superhighways of confidence. Start small: voice preferences instead of defaulting to "whatever's fine," eliminate apology language, practice mirror affirmations, and embrace the qualities others have called "too much." Remember this mantra: "I am not too much. I'm not a burden. I take up space like I was born to."
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Chapters
1. Welcome to Pocketful of Mojo (00:00:00)
2. The Tea Infuser Revelation (00:01:24)
3. People Pleasing is a Survival Strategy (00:04:16)
4. What Taking Up Space Really Means (00:06:20)
5. Rewiring Your Response to Discomfort (00:08:18)
6. Four Ways to Reclaim Your Space (00:11:43)
7. You're Not Too Much: Closing Mantra (00:16:24)
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