Season 6 Episode 13: Your Pet Is Not Safe When You're Not Safe: Understanding Animal Abuse in Coercive Control

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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When a perpetrator targets a family pet, they're sending a clear message about what they're capable of—and revealing a dangerous pattern that threatens everyone in the home. This eye-opening conversation with Maya Badham, founder of the Centre for Animal Inclusive Safeguarding, explores the deeply troubling intersection of animal abuse and coercive control.
The weaponization of animals extends far beyond physical violence. Perpetrators systematically use pets as tools for economic abuse, stalking, isolation, and emotional manipulation. Maya shares striking examples of how abusers mirror their tactics across all family members (e.g., if non-fatal strangulation is used against human victims, similar methods often appear in their treatment of animals). This pattern recognition is crucial for effective risk assessment and intervention.
Most troubling is how our systems force survivors into impossible choices. "I can't leave you home alone with my dog," Maya explains, highlighting how perpetrators create entrapment through a victim's attachment to their pet. With limited animal-inclusive refuge options, many survivors delay leaving or return to abusive situations because they have nowhere to go with their beloved animals.
The conversation reveals a critical intervention opportunity: Survivors frequently disclose concerns about their pets before discussing their own abuse. By asking about animals in the home and showing genuine concern for their welfare, professionals can build trust and gather vital information about risk factors that might otherwise remain hidden. Yet these opportunities are often missed because domestic violence and animal welfare professionals operate in separate silos.
Maya's Animal Inclusive Safeguarding Practice Blueprint aims to bridge these gaps by integrating animal welfare considerations into existing domestic violence responses. This approach recognizes the human-animal bond as a crucial protective factor—especially against domestic abuse–related suicide—and works toward solutions that keep both humans and animals safe from harm.
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Chapters

1. Introduction to Animal Abuse and Control (00:00:00)

2. Animal Abuse as Coercive Control (00:06:34)

3. Stalking and Isolation Using Animals (00:13:00)

4. Entrapment Through Pet Attachment (00:21:05)

5. Training Veterinary Professionals on Abuse (00:31:36)

6. Complex Attitudes About Animal Victims (00:38:27)

7. Animal-Inclusive Safeguarding Approaches (00:45:43)

8. Final Thoughts and Resources (00:50:31)

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