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In this powerful follow-up episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn dives deeper into the devastating cost of the Pick Me mindset—and how it continues to shape women’s lives in ways we often don’t realize until much later.
We’re not just talking about relationships anymore. We’re talking about ambition. Burnout. Sisterhood. Identity. And money.
Because the Pick Me culture doesn’t just ask women to be agreeable—it asks them to be invisible. It teaches them to shrink in boardrooms, overextend in relationships, compete in silence, and base their worth on being chosen. But what does that actually cost us?
In this episode, you’ll learn how this mindset:
- Undermines women’s confidence and career advancement
- Normalizes unpaid emotional labor in romantic and social relationships
- Breeds quiet competition instead of community between women
- Gradually erodes your sense of self and replaces it with performance
- Reinforces the idea that financial freedom is optional, instead of essential
Lynn exposes how the Pick Me mindset is more than a social dynamic—it’s a system. One that thrives on silence, self-abandonment, and suppression. And breaking it isn’t just personal healing—it’s an act of resistance.
This episode invites you to ask harder questions:
- Who are you if you stop performing for approval?
- What happens when you stop waiting to be picked—and start choosing yourself?
- Why is emotional labor expected from women… but never paid for?
- How have we been conditioned to fear money, while still being expected to manage everything else for free?
Whether you're rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, reevaluating your own belief systems, or simply tired of holding everything together, this conversation is for you.
It’s time to stop measuring your worth by how well you fit into a patriarchal mold—and start reclaiming the parts of you that were never supposed to be small.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Emotional labor and financial disempowerment
- Workplace inequality and under-recognition
- Identity loss through people-pleasing and social survival
- How systemic conditioning mirrors the dynamics of abuse
🎧 Listen now to break the silence, unravel the mindset, and take the first step toward radical self-ownership.
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In this powerful follow-up episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn dives deeper into the devastating cost of the Pick Me mindset—and how it continues to shape women’s lives in ways we often don’t realize until much later.
We’re not just talking about relationships anymore. We’re talking about ambition. Burnout. Sisterhood. Identity. And money.
Because the Pick Me culture doesn’t just ask women to be agreeable—it asks them to be invisible. It teaches them to shrink in boardrooms, overextend in relationships, compete in silence, and base their worth on being chosen. But what does that actually cost us?
In this episode, you’ll learn how this mindset:
- Undermines women’s confidence and career advancement
- Normalizes unpaid emotional labor in romantic and social relationships
- Breeds quiet competition instead of community between women
- Gradually erodes your sense of self and replaces it with performance
- Reinforces the idea that financial freedom is optional, instead of essential
Lynn exposes how the Pick Me mindset is more than a social dynamic—it’s a system. One that thrives on silence, self-abandonment, and suppression. And breaking it isn’t just personal healing—it’s an act of resistance.
This episode invites you to ask harder questions:
- Who are you if you stop performing for approval?
- What happens when you stop waiting to be picked—and start choosing yourself?
- Why is emotional labor expected from women… but never paid for?
- How have we been conditioned to fear money, while still being expected to manage everything else for free?
Whether you're rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, reevaluating your own belief systems, or simply tired of holding everything together, this conversation is for you.
It’s time to stop measuring your worth by how well you fit into a patriarchal mold—and start reclaiming the parts of you that were never supposed to be small.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Emotional labor and financial disempowerment
- Workplace inequality and under-recognition
- Identity loss through people-pleasing and social survival
- How systemic conditioning mirrors the dynamics of abuse
🎧 Listen now to break the silence, unravel the mindset, and take the first step toward radical self-ownership.
🔗 Explore More:
🌐 Visit the Website:
https://movingforwardafterabuse.com
Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.
📚 Read the Books by Lynn:
https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/
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💡 Want to support the show?
Leave us a tip to help keep the podcast going—ad-free and unapologetic.
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🌐 Links & resources: linktr.ee/lynnnichols
☕ Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/waketheelephant
📚 Books by Lynn: Overcoming the Devastation of Narcissistic Abuse & Master Manipulators
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