How to Protect Your Peace from a Narcissist in 5 Minutes

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How to Protect Your Peace from a Narcissist in 5 Minutes

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Narcissists hate your peace—because when you’re calm, their control slips away. That’s why they poke and prod the moment you start to feel steady.

In this Thrive in Five, I’ll share:
✨ Why your calm threatens their power
✨ A quick somatic reset you can do in minutes
✨ How to guard your peace like the crown jewel it is 👑

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TRANSCRIPT

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to your Thrive in five. This is your five minute pause from the chaos, the guilt trips, and the narcissist, endless drama bombs. All right, so take a breath queen. This one is for you all tied up in a little bow just for you. Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to Take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Today. We are going to talk about why the narcissists hate your piece a little bit, but more importantly, how to guard it quickly. We're going to do a little somatic tooling today. If you want to go deeper in, if you did not already listen to Tuesday's episode, please go listen to that as well. And you could save this and come back to it. Maybe listen to that first, or if you just have a few minutes, definitely try out this tool and save the other podcast because they go hand in hand every Tuesday, Thursday.

(01:04)
We've got two little buddy episodes. Okay, so here's the thing. When you're calm and you're at peace, right? And you might be getting there right now, you might be feeling it, but when you're truly there, you are untouchable. You're unshakeable. Your nervous system stops reacting to their chaos and their power then slips through their fingers. So if you're starting to feel emboldened, you're starting to feel independent, you're starting to feel like you are getting out or are out of their web. Finally, they will show up. That's why they poke, they prod, they stir up the conflict because you're finding peace and they don't like it. Again, I touched on that a lot more deeply in Tuesday's episode, but here's what they don't know. Peace can be practiced and it can be guarded. So this is something you can absolutely get, even if you're not totally there yet, you can practice it and then you can guard it and maintain it.

(02:19)
And obviously working with me one-on-one is the best way to do that. I'll always put my how to work with me one-on-one options in my show notes. That is going to be your best way to get the transformation. I mean, hey, I'm going to pat myself on my back. These episodes, these podcasts, they are great. They got some good tools. I really try to give a lot of free information, but I cannot talk to each one of you in a customized way through this podcast, which I would love to do, but I can't do it. So that's where the one-on-one real true, deep, long lasting transformation works where we do somatic healing, mindset work, everything, right? So today's tool, we'll do a quick nervous system reset right now. So step one, you're going to place both feet firmly on the floor, right? You get grounded, baby, you look good, grounded as you inhale, imagine breathing in the calm.

(03:20)
And you could put a color. I love to make a golden light. Anything calm for me? You could make it light blue. You could make a no color as long as you're feeling calm when you're breathing it in. So the inhales, you're going to do that. And when you exhale, you're going to imagine sending chaos, that chaotic feeling out of your body, whatever that feels like, looks like it could be. You have tension and draw, sending that out. I like to shoot it up out of my crown chakra. I imagine that going straight up and out. Get the hell out of here, right? So you can do two breaths like this in through the nose and out through wherever you want to shoot it out. Okay? Step two. Then we make gentle fists with both hands. And you're going to squeeze for five seconds and then you're going to release. And the key is to really focus and feel the difference between when you squeeze, squeeze, feel the tension, right? Feel what that feels like. It's tense, kind of hurts, not so comfortable and release. What does that feel like? Lighter. Ah, peaceful. That's your body. Remembering it as a choice. You have a choice of squeezing, you have a choice of letting go. Okay? Number three, place one hand over that little heart, little beater of yours and repeat after me. My piece is mine. I don't hand it over and then say it twice more.

(05:19)
Your piece is yours. You get to choose. Are you going to give that to this mofo? Heck no. Not anymore. No ma'am. There's a new queen in town. Okay? So these are some simple steps, but every time you practice these steps together, you are training your body to stay loyal to you, not to what? To their chaos. When they have you under their thumb, you are loyal to them and their chaos. We don't have time for that anymore. No, we don't have the energy or the desire. So you're going to start staying loyal to you and your peace. Okay? Your piece is sacred, and that might sound hokey or dramatic, but it is. Your piece is your lifeline. Am I right? Am I right? Yeah. So you have to guard it. You have to guard it. No one else is going to guard your peace.

(06:21)
Like you will guard it when you're ready. Are you ready? Good. If you're ready, let's work together. Let's get real ready. Link in the notes. Alright, that's your Thrivent five. Go sip your tea, adjust your beautiful shiny crown. And remember this too, guys, okay? The calmer you are, the more peace you are, the less control they'll have. The calmer you are, the less control they will have. And isn't that what we want? So when you feel triggered or you want to just bite back at something, they said, remember, any attention or any energy you give them gives them control.

(07:07)
That's not what we want. What do you want? You want peace. Don't worry about what they have and don't have. And you got to now that you know you're going to tell them off, or you don't need to do any of that, you win when you have peace. So always think, is this going to give me more peace? My reaction? And as you know, the Gray Rock Method is the biggest peace giver if you have to deal with a narcissist, gray rock method. I have two episodes, I believe on that. Okay? So you guys have a beautiful rest of your week. And don't forget, every Tuesday is the normal episode and every Thursday is the Thrive in five Somatic Tools to Accompany Tuesday's episodes. So again, all my information will always be in the notes, how to work with me, my email, if you have questions about anything or you just want to reach out, say hello. I love it. I love you guys. I love getting notes from you. And then anything related to the podcast, if I mention another episode, I'll usually try to link it in there. And always the transcript is there as well. If you miss something or you listening and you want to just go read about it. Alright, I'll see you the next episode. Smooches and Deuces, keep that chin up, babe.

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