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Moving From Approval to True Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explores how moving beyond validation-seeking creates deeper, more authentic intimate connections in marriage, explaining that true intimacy requires embracing differences rather than demanding constant agreement.
• Distinguishing between validation and true intimacy in relationships
• Understanding the three unhealthy relationship patterns: pressuring our partner, yielding to avoid conflict, or creating parallel lives
• Recognizing that we marry people for their differences but then often resent those same differences
• Learning to weather invalidation without falling apart or becoming defensive
• Developing the capacity to truly listen to our partner's perspective without immediately defending ourselves
• Identifying our "losing strategy" – our default response under pressure that undermines connection
• Approaching conflict with curiosity about our partner's experience rather than taking it personally
• Beginning difficult conversations by acknowledging where our partner is right about us
• Understanding marriage as a spiritual journey that expands our capacity to love and be known
Get your copy of Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's new book "That We Might Have Joy: Sexuality as a Path to Spirituality for Latter-day Saints" available September 30th on Amazon or through her website at finlayson-fife.com.
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Chapters

1. Meeting Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife (00:00:00)

2. Understanding Intimacy Beyond Validation (00:03:35)

3. The Three Unhealthy Relationship Patterns (00:09:05)

4. Signs of Validation-Seeking in Marriage (00:17:45)

5. Steps Toward Honest Connection (00:27:05)

6. Marriage as Spiritual Development (00:38:12)

338 episodes

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explores how moving beyond validation-seeking creates deeper, more authentic intimate connections in marriage, explaining that true intimacy requires embracing differences rather than demanding constant agreement.
• Distinguishing between validation and true intimacy in relationships
• Understanding the three unhealthy relationship patterns: pressuring our partner, yielding to avoid conflict, or creating parallel lives
• Recognizing that we marry people for their differences but then often resent those same differences
• Learning to weather invalidation without falling apart or becoming defensive
• Developing the capacity to truly listen to our partner's perspective without immediately defending ourselves
• Identifying our "losing strategy" – our default response under pressure that undermines connection
• Approaching conflict with curiosity about our partner's experience rather than taking it personally
• Beginning difficult conversations by acknowledging where our partner is right about us
• Understanding marriage as a spiritual journey that expands our capacity to love and be known
Get your copy of Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's new book "That We Might Have Joy: Sexuality as a Path to Spirituality for Latter-day Saints" available September 30th on Amazon or through her website at finlayson-fife.com.
Send us a text

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Meeting Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife (00:00:00)

2. Understanding Intimacy Beyond Validation (00:03:35)

3. The Three Unhealthy Relationship Patterns (00:09:05)

4. Signs of Validation-Seeking in Marriage (00:17:45)

5. Steps Toward Honest Connection (00:27:05)

6. Marriage as Spiritual Development (00:38:12)

338 episodes

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