Have you ever found yourself caught between the exhilaration of new love and the whispers of your past trauma? In this deeply personal episode, Steph and Shellbz pull back the curtain on what happens when you find someone who loves you exactly as you are—anxieties, insecurities, and all.
The conversation explores that maddening internal voice that tells us we're not enough, with Steph admitting, "I try to convince myself 'you're hot, you're successful, you're a fucking catch'... but my brain doesn't let me think that way." Both hosts share how they've struggled to be vulnerable after relationships where their feelings were dismissed or belittled. The breakthrough comes in finding partners who respond to vulnerability not with judgment but with acceptance: "Just tell me what I need to do."
Perhaps most compelling is their exploration of finding love when you've stopped looking for it. Shellbz confesses, "I never planned on being in a relationship. I was good with being alone," while Steph describes her failed attempt at entering "ho phase" before falling unexpectedly in love. They discuss the significance of merging lives and giving up individual "safe spaces" when moving in together—a particularly profound step for those who've experienced relationship trauma.
The hosts also tackle the well-meaning but sometimes frustrating advice from friends to "slow down" in new relationships. Their message is clear: while caution is understandable, sometimes your heart knows what others can't see. As Steph puts it, "Once I decide to do something, I'm not going to take anyone else's opinion into consideration. You either get on board or get the fuck out of my way."
Join us for this raw, honest conversation about learning to trust again, the courage to be vulnerable, and the indescribable joy of finding someone who makes you feel seen, heard, and cherished. Connect with us at lezcommunicate.com, join our Discord community, or email us at [email protected].

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