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How Avoidant Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies

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We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism?

In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in clients, and why adjusting expectations (on both sides) is key for healthy, interdependent relationships.

Whether you’re dating someone avoidant or navigating your own avoidant patterns, this episode will help you better understand the “why” behind the behavior—and how to create more compassion and clarity in your relationships.

*Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.

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Manage episode 494582211 series 3213080
Content provided by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT, Jessica Da Silva, and LMFT. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT, Jessica Da Silva, and LMFT or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism?

In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in clients, and why adjusting expectations (on both sides) is key for healthy, interdependent relationships.

Whether you’re dating someone avoidant or navigating your own avoidant patterns, this episode will help you better understand the “why” behind the behavior—and how to create more compassion and clarity in your relationships.

*Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.

  continue reading

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