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What Dating Securely Has Taught Me

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In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey.

As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old patterns don’t still surface — especially when connection, chemistry, and unmet needs collide.

I’ll walk you through how I navigated this dynamic from a secure place, the conversations I had, and ultimately, how I honored myself enough to walk away when alignment wasn’t there — even when it felt good in the moment.

If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you.

Takeaways include:

  • The difference between chemistry and compatibility

  • How to identify your unmet needs in real time

  • Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit

  • What it looks like to actually date from your secure self

  • How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align

🎧 Plus: Only 2 more days to join the My Secure Self Membership for just $1 your first month! Get access to group coaching, monthly workshops, and tools to help you build secure, aligned relationships HERE.

Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.

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Manage episode 482519910 series 3213080
Content provided by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT, Jessica Da Silva, and LMFT. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT, Jessica Da Silva, and LMFT or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey.

As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old patterns don’t still surface — especially when connection, chemistry, and unmet needs collide.

I’ll walk you through how I navigated this dynamic from a secure place, the conversations I had, and ultimately, how I honored myself enough to walk away when alignment wasn’t there — even when it felt good in the moment.

If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you.

Takeaways include:

  • The difference between chemistry and compatibility

  • How to identify your unmet needs in real time

  • Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit

  • What it looks like to actually date from your secure self

  • How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align

🎧 Plus: Only 2 more days to join the My Secure Self Membership for just $1 your first month! Get access to group coaching, monthly workshops, and tools to help you build secure, aligned relationships HERE.

Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.

  continue reading

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