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Why Your Nervous System Needs a Village

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What does it mean to truly support another human being? Not with empty phrases like "thoughts and prayers" or "reach out if you need anything," but with genuine, grounded presence that acknowledges our shared humanity.
This episode dives deep into the three fundamental needs hardwired into our nervous systems: love, safety, and belonging. These aren't optional luxuries—they're neurological imperatives for survival. When any one of these needs goes unmet, our brains panic as if our very lives are threatened. Many of us carry these deficits from childhood into adulthood, constantly searching for what we missed in relationships, communities, or even addictions.
The foundation for meeting these needs traditionally begins in family, but family takes many forms. Sometimes it's grandparents raising children, chosen family stepping up, or mentors filling crucial gaps. True support isn't about judgment or taking over—it's about asking "How can I help you today?" and then actually showing up. It might look like holding a baby so a mother can shower, respecting your adult children's parenting choices, or simply sitting in silence with someone who's struggling.
But, you know what? You can't effectively support others if you're dysregulated yourself. Your own healing journey must come first. By learning to regulate our emotions and nervous systems, we not only model wholeness for the next generation but create capacity for authentic connection in a world that desperately needs it.
Ready to break cycles and create ripples of positive change? Join our community of women walking the path toward greater peace, compassion, and wholeness. Connect with me on Instagram @LemonBalmCoaching or in our free Facebook community "Reignite Your Flame" where soul-tired women gather to find support, inspiration, and practical tools for their journey.

It’s time to rediscover YOU. Join the Reignite Your Flame Facebook group—a supportive community where women like you find peace, joy, and purpose. Together, we’ll nurture your mind, body, and spirit so you can shine again. Don’t wait to start your journey back to yourself.
Join Reignite Your Flame HERE

Support the show

Are you a woman over 40 who is on the verge of a mental or physical breakdown? Are you ready to invite peace, joy, and excitement into your life again? Download 5 Tips to Feel Joy Again in Under 20-Mintues AND Join the Reignite Your Flame Group on Facebook where women, just like you, come together to support, encourage, and connect.

Music by Adipsia

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Chapters

1. Introduction to True Support (00:00:00)

2. What Support Really Looks Like (00:01:51)

3. The Three Basic Survival Needs (00:04:37)

4. Supporting Yourself to Support Others (00:07:35)

5. Invitation and Closing Thoughts (00:10:18)

6. Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:12:24)

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What does it mean to truly support another human being? Not with empty phrases like "thoughts and prayers" or "reach out if you need anything," but with genuine, grounded presence that acknowledges our shared humanity.
This episode dives deep into the three fundamental needs hardwired into our nervous systems: love, safety, and belonging. These aren't optional luxuries—they're neurological imperatives for survival. When any one of these needs goes unmet, our brains panic as if our very lives are threatened. Many of us carry these deficits from childhood into adulthood, constantly searching for what we missed in relationships, communities, or even addictions.
The foundation for meeting these needs traditionally begins in family, but family takes many forms. Sometimes it's grandparents raising children, chosen family stepping up, or mentors filling crucial gaps. True support isn't about judgment or taking over—it's about asking "How can I help you today?" and then actually showing up. It might look like holding a baby so a mother can shower, respecting your adult children's parenting choices, or simply sitting in silence with someone who's struggling.
But, you know what? You can't effectively support others if you're dysregulated yourself. Your own healing journey must come first. By learning to regulate our emotions and nervous systems, we not only model wholeness for the next generation but create capacity for authentic connection in a world that desperately needs it.
Ready to break cycles and create ripples of positive change? Join our community of women walking the path toward greater peace, compassion, and wholeness. Connect with me on Instagram @LemonBalmCoaching or in our free Facebook community "Reignite Your Flame" where soul-tired women gather to find support, inspiration, and practical tools for their journey.

It’s time to rediscover YOU. Join the Reignite Your Flame Facebook group—a supportive community where women like you find peace, joy, and purpose. Together, we’ll nurture your mind, body, and spirit so you can shine again. Don’t wait to start your journey back to yourself.
Join Reignite Your Flame HERE

Support the show

Are you a woman over 40 who is on the verge of a mental or physical breakdown? Are you ready to invite peace, joy, and excitement into your life again? Download 5 Tips to Feel Joy Again in Under 20-Mintues AND Join the Reignite Your Flame Group on Facebook where women, just like you, come together to support, encourage, and connect.

Music by Adipsia

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Introduction to True Support (00:00:00)

2. What Support Really Looks Like (00:01:51)

3. The Three Basic Survival Needs (00:04:37)

4. Supporting Yourself to Support Others (00:07:35)

5. Invitation and Closing Thoughts (00:10:18)

6. Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:12:24)

159 episodes

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