In this episode of The Inclusive Dad podcast, host AAron sits down with counselor and coach Kathy O’Connell to explore the intersection of disability, inclusion, and dating. Kathy, who lives with cerebral palsy, shares her personal journey of self-advocacy, navigating early exclusion, and eventually finding love. Together, they unpack the challenges people with disabilities face in building meaningful relationships, from confidence to rejection, and even the impact of sexual ableism. Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for creating inclusion in everyday life, while also being reminded of the power of self-acceptance and courage in pursuing authentic connection.

Key Takeaways:

Self-inclusion matters – True inclusion begins when we give ourselves permission to belong.

Confidence builds connection – Confidence helps overcome stigma and opens doors to relationships.

Rejection reframed – Rejection is about preference, not personal worth.

Disability disclosure – Sharing openly early on saves time and strengthens authenticity.

Sexual ableism harms – Challenging the belief that people with disabilities can’t be partners is essential.

Kathy O’Connell’s definition of inclusion:

Inclusion means to live a full life. It's about doing what you want to do in life and pursuing your dreams, your path, and creating inclusion for yourself along the way.

Kathy O’Connell’s Bio:

Kathy O’Connell, LMHC, CRC, is one of the country’s leading advocates for helping people with disabilities create healthy romantic relationships and sexual identities. Leading the charge against what she calls “Sexual Ableism” that makes individuals with disabilities falsely believe they are not worthy of a beautiful, healthy romantic relationship.

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, she runs Radiant Abilities, LLC, which offers mental health services and healthy relationship skills to people with and without disabilities for over 25 years. Kathy is the creator of the Dating Made Easier membership for people wanting to learn dating and relationship skills. She also created the Supporting Dating and Relationships for professionals and family members.

Connect with Kathy O’Connell:

Website: https://www.radiantabilities.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radiantabilities

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radiantabilities

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/radiantabilities/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radiantabilities

Receive Dating Affirmations: https://www.radiantabilities.com/dating-affirmations

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