“You should take care of yourself!”

“Go get a massage!”

“Don’t forget to rest!”

Have you ever heard these well-meaning but *completely useless* pieces of advice? I did—over and over again—when I was a new mum, deep in the trenches of sleepless nights, hospital visits, and feeding pumps. And let me tell you: they didn’t help. At all.

Hi, I’m Minie, a special needs mum based in Sydney, and today’s video is part rant, part love letter, part public service announcement. For Mother’s Day, I’m giving a voice to the real struggles behind the glossy idea of “self-care” for mums like me. Especially those living in survival mode.

In this brutally honest and slightly funny episode, I’m breaking down:

💚 Why “take care of yourself” often feels like a slap in the face

💚 The stark difference between life on plane A vs plane B

💚 What survival actually looks like for a medical mum

💚 The *real* basics mums should focus on (poop, eat, drink)

💚 Practical tips on how to support the mums in your life *without* sounding dismissive

This Mother’s Day, let’s stop giving advice—and start offering real help.

🎥 Also available as a video: https://youtu.be/lSxHgxCvOAs

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