If you're someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you.

"Resonance" is a term frequently used by today's guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others.

Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you.

In this episode, Sarah talks about:

• Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most
• The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion
• What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what's possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way
• How you're trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself
• How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit
• Being "known" by others can actually rewire your brain

To learn more about Sarah's work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Sarah Peyton:

• Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/
• 20% Off Sarah's Book "Your Resonant Self": https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields