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Why Your Brain Clings To The Bad And How To Train It Toward Good

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Ever notice how a random jab from years ago feels louder than a warm compliment from last week? There’s a reason. Our brains are built to protect us, tagging threats and disappointments as high priority while letting everyday goodness slip by. We unpack that survival bias with clear, practical steps to retrain your attention so peace stops feeling like a fairy tale and starts feeling like a habit you can build.
I've got stories to share —from skunks in the camp vestibule to roadside breakdowns—that illustrate why “what went wrong” is so sticky in memory. Then we connect the dots between neuroscience and faith, showing how the reticular activating system can be tuned on purpose and how asking where God is working opens space for trust over control. You’ll learn simple, repeatable practices to shift out of constant what-ifs: daily gratitude that counts small gifts, marking moments so the good becomes recallable, speaking gratitude out loud to anchor truth, and using grounding questions to interrupt spirals. If stress has been your baseline and rest feels unsafe, these tools help your nervous system relearn safety, creativity, and joy.
I also have an update: after five steady years of showing up, I'm pausing through November and December to rest, pray, and listen for the next right step. Consider this your invitation to choose renewal over relentless survival. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find these conversations. While we’re away, join the mailing list so you don’t miss what’s coming next—and tell me: where do you see goodness moving in your life today?

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Feeling soul-tired and ready for something more? 🌿

If you’re a woman over 40 longing to rediscover peace, joy, and genuine excitement for life again—start here.

Download Break the Holiday Spiral: 5 Triggers That Steal Your Peace
(and How to Reset Fast)
. Step into the season with calm, clarity, and strength—without repeating the same old exhausting holiday cycle.

Music by Adipsia

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Chapters

1. Why Your Brain Clings To The Bad And How To Train It Toward Good (00:00:00)

2. Why Negatives Stick In Memory (00:00:25)

3. Story Time: Trips Gone Sideways (00:02:30)

4. The Brain’s Survival Bias Explained (00:05:15)

5. Hypervigilance And Living In Survival Mode (00:09:10)

6. Faith, Purpose, And Reframing Focus (00:13:20)

7. Gratitude Practices That Retrain Attention (00:16:05)

8. Renewal Over Survival And What’s Next (00:20:40)

156 episodes

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Content provided by Melissa Holman. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Melissa Holman or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

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Ever notice how a random jab from years ago feels louder than a warm compliment from last week? There’s a reason. Our brains are built to protect us, tagging threats and disappointments as high priority while letting everyday goodness slip by. We unpack that survival bias with clear, practical steps to retrain your attention so peace stops feeling like a fairy tale and starts feeling like a habit you can build.
I've got stories to share —from skunks in the camp vestibule to roadside breakdowns—that illustrate why “what went wrong” is so sticky in memory. Then we connect the dots between neuroscience and faith, showing how the reticular activating system can be tuned on purpose and how asking where God is working opens space for trust over control. You’ll learn simple, repeatable practices to shift out of constant what-ifs: daily gratitude that counts small gifts, marking moments so the good becomes recallable, speaking gratitude out loud to anchor truth, and using grounding questions to interrupt spirals. If stress has been your baseline and rest feels unsafe, these tools help your nervous system relearn safety, creativity, and joy.
I also have an update: after five steady years of showing up, I'm pausing through November and December to rest, pray, and listen for the next right step. Consider this your invitation to choose renewal over relentless survival. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find these conversations. While we’re away, join the mailing list so you don’t miss what’s coming next—and tell me: where do you see goodness moving in your life today?

Support the show

Feeling soul-tired and ready for something more? 🌿

If you’re a woman over 40 longing to rediscover peace, joy, and genuine excitement for life again—start here.

Download Break the Holiday Spiral: 5 Triggers That Steal Your Peace
(and How to Reset Fast)
. Step into the season with calm, clarity, and strength—without repeating the same old exhausting holiday cycle.

Music by Adipsia

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Why Your Brain Clings To The Bad And How To Train It Toward Good (00:00:00)

2. Why Negatives Stick In Memory (00:00:25)

3. Story Time: Trips Gone Sideways (00:02:30)

4. The Brain’s Survival Bias Explained (00:05:15)

5. Hypervigilance And Living In Survival Mode (00:09:10)

6. Faith, Purpose, And Reframing Focus (00:13:20)

7. Gratitude Practices That Retrain Attention (00:16:05)

8. Renewal Over Survival And What’s Next (00:20:40)

156 episodes

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