Masculinity is evolving, but are men keeping up? In this compelling discussion, Dr. Hillary Goldsher joins Todd Vander Hei to unpack the societal pressures shaping modern masculinity and the consequences of emotional suppression.
They explore how men are taught to suppress emotions like fear, sadness, and anxiety—often leading to long-term consequences such as agitation, depression, sleep disorders, and even cardiovascular health issues. Todd shares his own experience with emotional suppression and the journey toward self-awareness, revealing how it reshaped his leadership, relationships, and well-being.

Dr. Hillary provides insight into the biochemical and psychological effects of bottling up emotions and how it manifests in different aspects of health, from hormonal imbalances to stress-related illnesses. The conversation shifts to practical strategies for men to recognize, process, and express emotions in a healthy way—without losing their sense of strength or identity. They also discuss the transformative potential of psychedelic-assisted therapy, with Todd recounting a powerful breakthrough from a friend who used ketamine therapy to unlock emotional awareness.

If you’ve ever felt pressure to “tough it out” or struggled to express emotions, this episode is a must-listen. Learn how self-awareness, advocacy, and emotional intelligence can not only improve mental well-being but also strengthen relationships, leadership, and overall health.

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 - The Pressure on Modern Masculinity
07:45 - How Emotional Suppression Affects Men's Health
14:30 - The Hidden Symptoms of Suppression
21:10 - Todd’s Personal Journey with Emotional Awareness
28:50 - How Suppressed Emotions Manifest in the Body
35:25 - Practical Strategies for Emotional Awareness
41:40 - The Power of Vulnerability in Leadership
49:10 - How Men Can Support Each Other Emotionally
56:20 - The Role of Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy
62:00 - Final Thoughts: The Cost of Suppression