[REPLAY] Digging Into the 3 Kinds of Friendship Roots

Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes

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About three years ago, many of my friends moved away within a six month period.
While I was excited for these friends, I also grieved; my friends are my main support system, my family. How would I keep these friendships alive? I invested a lot of energy into thinking about it, through which I developed what I’m tentatively calling the “Your People” framework.
The best way to think about this framework is to imagine a tree. Trees start as seeds, and then you provide them with nutrients and soil. Over time, trees grow roots. Some roots get really thick and strong; some grow deep. Some grow offshoots. The more roots that grow, the more stable the tree.
In my friendship theory, there are three kinds of roots, which I’ll dig into today. My hope is that this framework and language helps people think about these relationships and consider what actions to take to build better versions of our friendships.
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In this episode you’ll hear about:

SHARED EXPERIENCE ROOTS and their offshoot roots – i.e., when you’re doing something related to the shared experience root, but in a way you’re comfortable
EMOTIONAL INTIMACY ROOTS – what we know about our friends and our shared memories – plus shared/overlapping history roots and big/small intimacies
STORY ROOTS – the beliefs you have about your friendships, and how we come to develop those beliefs
How letting roots (i.e., friendships) die is not a bad thing – we can’t be in high school geometry class forever – but it doesn’t mean it’s not a sad thing
How to keep these friendships thriving as we grow and change, and how to replace dead story routes with simpler, more straightforward story roots
One of the biggest problems when it comes to adult friendships – plus, the REAL foundations of these friendships

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