In Season 3 of For My Sons, we’re stepping into manhood with lessons that sharpen your habits, your mind, and your future. And the first stone in that house is focus.

The Yoruba remind us: “Bí o ṣe ń dúró ni, bí o ṣe ń mọ̀ eso ni” — as you persist, so you ripen the fruit. In other words, lasting results only come when you hold your attention steady.

In this episode, Papa O unpacks:

• Why focus is more than working harder — it’s the art of deciding what deserves your energy.

• How scattered focus almost killed his rugby progress — and what changed when he locked in on acceleration and stamina.

• Why multitasking is a dangerous myth (and what Stanford research shows about attention).

• Examples of British greats like Lewis Hamilton, Mo Farah, and Sir Alex Ferguson, who built greatness by focusing on one thing.

• The dark side of focus: when it turns into obsession and destroys instead of builds.

• Five practical ways to train your focus starting today.

💡 One Step This Week: Choose one commitment, filter out the noise, and give it prime time every day.

“Focus is not just what you give your attention to — it’s what you refuse to give your attention to.”

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