026|“I Can Fix This On My Own”—The Lie That’s Costing Men Their Marriage
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For a lot of men, asking for help feels like weakness.
We’re taught to be self-reliant. To lead. To figure it out on our own.
So when marriage gets hard, we do what we’ve always done—try to push through it solo.
However, some problems don’t get solved with more effort.
They get solved with support.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re diving into one of the biggest roadblocks men face in relationships—resistance to help.
Where it comes from, how it starts in childhood, and why learning to receive support isn’t just a game-changer—it’s a requirement for growth.
You’ll also hear a personal story from my own marriage—and why learning to stop hiding was the turning point in our relationship.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why men are conditioned to avoid help—and how that affects your marriage
✅ How the “hero child” role shows up in adult relationships
✅ Why doing it alone keeps you stuck longer than you think
✅ The mindset shift that creates real change in you and your marriage
✅ What support actually looks like—and where to start finding it
💡 Key Takeaways:
- You weren’t meant to do this alone—and you don’t have to
- Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you ready
- Support changes everything—when you’re open to receiving it
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Think about where in your life you’re white-knuckling your way through
2️⃣ Reach out to one person and name what you’ve been carrying
3️⃣ Get on the waitlist for Better Husband Academy → betterhusbandacademy.com
4️⃣ Ask yourself: What could change if I let someone in?
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ Who do you go to when things get hard—and are they actually helping?
❓ What would your marriage look like if you stopped pretending to be fine?
❓ Are you building a relationship—or just managing it alone?
Ready to Take Action?
If you’re serious about showing up differently in your marriage, Better Husband Academy is your next step.
It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.
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Chapters
1. Falling into the Pit: Why Men Stay Stuck (00:00:00)
2. Why Men Wait Too Long to Ask for Help (00:01:08)
3. My Story: What Changed Everything for Me (00:02:41)
4. What the Research Says About Men and Help-Seeking (00:04:03)
5. The Hero Child: The Role That Shaped You (00:06:10)
6. The Power of Real Support (and Where to Find It) (00:08:33)
7. Introducing Better Husband Academy (00:10:15)
8. What Support Looks Like in Real Life (00:12:02)
9. Final Thoughts: What Happens When You Reach Out (00:12:35)
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