How men’s mental health, masculinity and feminism collide—suicide risk, real strengths, and why “toxic” isn’t the same as masculine.

A candid episode about containers for emotion, respect, repair, and showing up like a grownup—at home, on dates, and with friends.

Content note: explicit language; gender politics; sensitive topics.

If you’re struggling (U.S.): Call/Text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7).

Episode focus: what “showing up” looks like for men right now—vulnerability with containers, strengths worth keeping (and their costs), dating scripts, resentment loops, and actual masculinity vs. the cartoon version.

We cover:

• “Open up” fails without containers—time, rules, responsibility, consequences
• Strengths worth keeping—protection, provision, service—and their costs (burnout, isolation)
• Dating scripts & resentment loops—how to reset expectations and repair
• Communication basics—boundaries, conflict etiquette, consent, respect
• Real masculinity vs. caricature—courage, responsibility, tenderness, self-control
• Equality among the sexes—how can we avoid the hatred

Hosts/Guest: The DEFECTIVE Schizoaffective (Nick) • IndyPocket (Tony) • Guest: Josh Guffey (“Guff”)

Guest links:

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@guffey2692

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guffey_kgg

Check on a man you care about today—ask one REAL question and stay for the answer. Then post your question (and his consented response style) on our Discord "The Struggle Bus" so we can help you build a better understanding. (link below)

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Candid mental health podcast with lived experience—schizoaffective disorder, trauma recovery, coping skills, and dark humor that fights stigma!

Discord — “The Struggle Bus”: https://discord.gg/emFXKuWKNA

If you need support (U.S.): Call/Text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7).

Sexual assault support: RAINN 800-656-HOPE or online.rainn.org

HOSTS / SOCIALS

The DEFECTIVE Schizoaffective (Nick)

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@defectiveschizoaffective
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@defectiveschizoaffective

IndyPocket (Tony)

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@indypocket
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/indypocket
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@absolutezen

Cover Art: Ryan Manning