#184: What if everything you've been told about finding love is wrong? What if the secret to lasting relationships isn't chemistry or luck, but actually a mathematical formula that can predict compatibility with stunning accuracy?
In this mind-blowing conversation, relationship theorist and data analyst Zoey Charif reveals the science behind why we choose certain partners and why those relationships succeed or fail. Drawing from hundreds of relationship surveys and years of research, she breaks down her groundbreaking formula that shows the perfect relationship occurs when partners score approximately 4% higher than our self-worth. Any less creates a downward spiral where both partners stop putting in effort. And this can happen at any point, even after a relationship begins.
The data reveals surprising truths that challenge everything we thought we knew about attraction. People with the highest self-scores were actually the ones who initiated breakups, refusing to settle for unfulfilling relationships. What appears as "avoidant attachment" might simply be a score mismatch where the person doesn't value you as highly as you value them. And that intense chemistry you feel for someone who keeps disappearing? It might be your extreme emotional personality type being drawn to traits over values.
Whether you're struggling with dating apps, recovering from heartbreak, or wondering why your relationship feels off-balance, this episode offers something rare: a clear, evidence-based approach to understanding love. Because while relationships may feel magical, the data suggests they follow patterns we can understand and use to find lasting happiness.
This episode tackles relationships from a refreshingly analytical perspective that might just change how you approach love.

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