#186: The hardest truth to face is that sometimes you can love someone deeply and still be enabling them. In this powerful conversation, Meenu (life coach and host of Transcend Into Wellness podcast) and I explore that fine line where helping crosses into hurting.
We all want to support those we care about, but when does that support become sabotage? When are we actually preventing someone from growing through their struggles? Through personal stories and professional insights, we unpack the psychology behind enabling behaviors—whether with family members struggling with responsibility, friends caught in toxic patterns, or partners dealing with addiction.
The conversation delves into several uncomfortable truths: many enablers are actually helping themselves feel better rather than truly serving the other person; hitting rock bottom is often necessary for genuine change; and sometimes walking away is the most loving action you can take. Meenu shares powerful coaching perspectives on how to set compassionate boundaries without carrying guilt, and how to recognize when you're being manipulated versus when someone genuinely needs support.
"Behavior is a language," Meenu reminds us, highlighting that patterns reveal more than promises ever could. Together, we explore practical ways to support without creating dependency, how to navigate family dynamics when one person wants to enable while another doesn't, and the emotional cost to those who take on the "savior" role.
Whether you're struggling with a loved one who can't seem to break destructive cycles or questioning your own tendency to rescue others, this episode offers both compassion and clarity. Listen, reflect, and consider: are you helping someone grow, or just helping them stay exactly where they are?

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