Becky Mollenkamp and Sandhya Sudhakar dive into adrienne maree brown’s blog post "Relinquishing the Patriarchy." This rich, layered discussion covers gender roles, emotional labor, discomfort, and how patriarchy harms us all. From parenting to dating, personal identity to privilege, they explore how internalized systems shape us—and what it really takes to unlearn them. With insights into Enneagram types, somatic therapy, and white womanhood, this is a powerful reflection on liberation, healing, and building a better future.

This week’s text:
✍️ "Relinquishing the Patriarchy" by adrienne maree brown

This week’s guest: Sandhya Sudhakar
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Discussed in this episode:

• The emotional and practical challenges of raising a white son under patriarchy
• How dating cishet men intersects with feminist values
• What men are “owed” by society (and what they aren’t)
• The emotional cost of privilege and power
• Enneagram as a tool for understanding social roles
• White discomfort, male fragility, and the journey to awareness
• The limits of "burn it all down" rhetoric
• Somatic therapy, internal safety, and how to actually do the work

Resources mentioned:

• Somatic Experiencing International practitioner directory
• “My Grandmother's Hands” by Resmaa Menakem
• Enneagram Institute
• The Narrative Enneagram
  
  

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