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Self-Hatred: Wrestling With The Hidden Demon
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Have you ever had the unsettling realization that perhaps you don't like yourself very much? That underneath all your accomplishments, relationships, and hard work, there's a persistent voice whispering that you're somehow fundamentally flawed? In this very personal episode, we dive into the connection between childhood trauma and the development of negative core beliefs that can manifest as self-loathing. When children experience abuse or emotional neglect, especially from parents who refuse to acknowledge their harmful behavior, the child often internalizes the belief that they're inherently bad, broken, or unlovable.
What makes this particularly painful is how these beliefs become woven into the fabric of our identity. The path toward healing begins with recognizing that self-hatred isn't your true voice—it's a protective strategy developed when you had no other options. By approaching these disowned parts with curiosity and compassion rather than fear, we can begin to release their grip on our lives. While we may never receive the validation and accountability we deserve from those who hurt us, we can find new ways to nurture and accept those wounded parts of ourselves.
Whether you're struggling with self-criticism or supporting someone who is, this episode offers an intimate peek into understanding how early trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and practical steps toward reclaiming the parts we've been taught to fear and hate.
**If you or someone you love struggles with self hatred, book a call to see how Dr. Kibby with KulaMind can help.
- If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
- Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
- For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
- Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends
Chapters
1. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:00)
2. Admitting Self-Hatred and Its Relief (00:03:00)
3. Uncovering Core Beliefs About Being Broken (00:10:30)
4. Attachment Insecurity in Relationships (00:17:25)
5. Confronting Maternal Abuse and Denial (00:31:50)
6. The Stomping Child vs. Self-Hatred (00:40:40)
7. Breaking the Cycle of Self-Protection (00:53:20)
8. Finding Healing and Moving Forward (01:09:20)
9. Closing Thoughts and Call to Action (01:14:30)
143 episodes
Manage episode 484077585 series 2859785
Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)
Have you ever had the unsettling realization that perhaps you don't like yourself very much? That underneath all your accomplishments, relationships, and hard work, there's a persistent voice whispering that you're somehow fundamentally flawed? In this very personal episode, we dive into the connection between childhood trauma and the development of negative core beliefs that can manifest as self-loathing. When children experience abuse or emotional neglect, especially from parents who refuse to acknowledge their harmful behavior, the child often internalizes the belief that they're inherently bad, broken, or unlovable.
What makes this particularly painful is how these beliefs become woven into the fabric of our identity. The path toward healing begins with recognizing that self-hatred isn't your true voice—it's a protective strategy developed when you had no other options. By approaching these disowned parts with curiosity and compassion rather than fear, we can begin to release their grip on our lives. While we may never receive the validation and accountability we deserve from those who hurt us, we can find new ways to nurture and accept those wounded parts of ourselves.
Whether you're struggling with self-criticism or supporting someone who is, this episode offers an intimate peek into understanding how early trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and practical steps toward reclaiming the parts we've been taught to fear and hate.
**If you or someone you love struggles with self hatred, book a call to see how Dr. Kibby with KulaMind can help.
- If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested.
- Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.
- For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
- Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends
Chapters
1. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:00)
2. Admitting Self-Hatred and Its Relief (00:03:00)
3. Uncovering Core Beliefs About Being Broken (00:10:30)
4. Attachment Insecurity in Relationships (00:17:25)
5. Confronting Maternal Abuse and Denial (00:31:50)
6. The Stomping Child vs. Self-Hatred (00:40:40)
7. Breaking the Cycle of Self-Protection (00:53:20)
8. Finding Healing and Moving Forward (01:09:20)
9. Closing Thoughts and Call to Action (01:14:30)
143 episodes
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