Search a title or topic

Over 20 million podcasts, powered by 

Player FM logo
Artwork

Content provided by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.
Player FM - Podcast App
Go offline with the Player FM app!

Interview with Amber Rae: When Staying In A Safe Relationship Hurts You More Than Leaving

54:31
 
Share
 

Manage episode 497463813 series 2859785
Content provided by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)

What happens when you look into a stranger's eyes and suddenly realize what's been missing from your marriage all along? In this episode, bestselling author Amber Rae joins us to share her transformative journey from a nine-year relationship that checked all the boxes on paper but lacked true intimacy and connection.
Amber's story challenges our conventional understanding of commitment, revealing how we can unknowingly convince ourselves that relationships are working when essential needs remain unmet. "I didn't know I was pretending," she reflects, describing how she repeatedly tried to fix her marriage through therapy, self-help books, and doubting herself. The wake-up call came unexpectedly when she experienced an electric yet calm connection with a stranger that made her question everything.
We talk about what it's like to question your relationship or feel stuck between staying and leaving. Amber explores our patterns – whether we tend to leave too quickly or stay too long out of fear or people-pleasing – and provides permission to honor our authentic needs.
Beyond relationship insights, Amber shares her process of writing her new memoir "Lovable," describing how she created a "brave draft" by writing as if no one would read it. This approach to truth-telling mirrors what's needed in our relationships: the courage to see and speak our truths before considering how they'll be received.
Whether you're questioning your current relationship, healing from a past one, or simply curious about authentic connection, this conversation offers both validation and a framework for honest exploration. If you need more support in this journey, join our KulaMind Community for more relationship tools and connection with others walking similar paths. 50% discount off the first month if you sign up now!

Resources:

Support the show

  • Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Welcome to A Little Help for Our Friends (00:00:00)

2. Meet Bestselling Author Amber Ray (00:00:51)

3. Marriage Without Intimacy (00:03:09)

4. The Body Knows What's Wrong (00:08:53)

5. The Moment Everything Changed (00:16:10)

6. Working Together After the Connection (00:26:20)

7. When to Leave vs. When to Stay (00:34:22)

8. Writing Bravely About Your Life (00:48:50)

9. Lovable: Amber's New Book (00:52:16)

154 episodes

Artwork
iconShare
 
Manage episode 497463813 series 2859785
Content provided by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jacqueline Trumbull and Kibby McMahon, Jacqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)

What happens when you look into a stranger's eyes and suddenly realize what's been missing from your marriage all along? In this episode, bestselling author Amber Rae joins us to share her transformative journey from a nine-year relationship that checked all the boxes on paper but lacked true intimacy and connection.
Amber's story challenges our conventional understanding of commitment, revealing how we can unknowingly convince ourselves that relationships are working when essential needs remain unmet. "I didn't know I was pretending," she reflects, describing how she repeatedly tried to fix her marriage through therapy, self-help books, and doubting herself. The wake-up call came unexpectedly when she experienced an electric yet calm connection with a stranger that made her question everything.
We talk about what it's like to question your relationship or feel stuck between staying and leaving. Amber explores our patterns – whether we tend to leave too quickly or stay too long out of fear or people-pleasing – and provides permission to honor our authentic needs.
Beyond relationship insights, Amber shares her process of writing her new memoir "Lovable," describing how she created a "brave draft" by writing as if no one would read it. This approach to truth-telling mirrors what's needed in our relationships: the courage to see and speak our truths before considering how they'll be received.
Whether you're questioning your current relationship, healing from a past one, or simply curious about authentic connection, this conversation offers both validation and a framework for honest exploration. If you need more support in this journey, join our KulaMind Community for more relationship tools and connection with others walking similar paths. 50% discount off the first month if you sign up now!

Resources:

Support the show

  • Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Welcome to A Little Help for Our Friends (00:00:00)

2. Meet Bestselling Author Amber Ray (00:00:51)

3. Marriage Without Intimacy (00:03:09)

4. The Body Knows What's Wrong (00:08:53)

5. The Moment Everything Changed (00:16:10)

6. Working Together After the Connection (00:26:20)

7. When to Leave vs. When to Stay (00:34:22)

8. Writing Bravely About Your Life (00:48:50)

9. Lovable: Amber's New Book (00:52:16)

154 episodes

All episodes

×
 
Loading …

Welcome to Player FM!

Player FM is scanning the web for high-quality podcasts for you to enjoy right now. It's the best podcast app and works on Android, iPhone, and the web. Signup to sync subscriptions across devices.

 

Copyright 2025 | Privacy Policy | Terms of Service | | Copyright
Listen to this show while you explore
Play