Best Steve Recovering Addict Podcasts (2025)

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Sam M. 2:46:33

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8h ago2:46:33

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Our friend Sam gives us a colorful story of childhood and generational trauma. He's a special friend to Josh and I, so please enjoy the chaos of this episode. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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How Do We Discover/Recover Healthy Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Toxicity and Betrayal? 46:03

1h ago46:03

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In episode 307, Mark & Steve respond to an all-too-common history and situation submitted by a betrayed partner. Healthy sexual intimacy after betrayal cannot simply return to what it once was; it must be rebuilt on a new foundation of authenticity and safety. Because pornography shapes the brain and rewires arousal patterns, couples often find the…

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Navigating Sex Addiction Recovery: Insights from the SAL Conference 12-Step Men's Panel 51:39

15h ago51:39

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this special episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland shares a SAL 12-Step men's panel discussion from the 2025 S.A. Lifeline Virtual Conference. Moderated by Jonathan L., the panel includes men with years of experience in recovery, sharing their journeys of surrender, account…

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Nick D (part 2) 1:26:08

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We get to finish up with Nick and his journey from homelessness to winning a Grammy in recovery. Lots of great recovery shared. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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Is my Partner a clinical "Narcissist" or does he just have Narcissistic Tendencies? 45:11

1h ago45:11

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This episode (#306) addresses a common but painful question from betrayed partners: “Is my spouse a narcissist, or just showing narcissistic tendencies?” Mark and Steve explain that while the term “narcissist” has become a cultural buzzword, true narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is rare and defined by a complete absence of empathy. In contra…

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Nick D (part 1) 1:38:06

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This is the first half of a 3 hour episode with Nick. We learn about his childhood and his perception of how chaos and dysfunction seemed normal to a young kid and teenager. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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Sex Addiction Diagnosis, Treatment & Addressing Partner Sensitivity w/ Tim Stein 44:34

11d ago44:34

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Tim Stein, co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling and president of the American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR). Tim shares how AFAR, originally founded by Dr. Patrick Carnes, is advancing research to validate sex addiction as a legitimate, diagnosab…

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My Porn Addicted Partner uses photos of Family & Friends to Fantasize! What Do I Do?! 48:38

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This episode (#305) opens with a raw letter from a betrayed partner who discovered her husband had been using social media photos of women they both knew—friends, clients, even family—to fuel his sexual fantasies. Her anguish—“How could he ever love me if he could do this?”—captures the emotional devastation of betrayal trauma. We discuss how porn …

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In a Relationship Filled with Betrayal—How Can I Trust He will Not Betray Me Again?! 39:39

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In Episode 304, Mark and Steve address a powerful letter from a partner whose relationship began in betrayal—her husband secretly continued sexual involvement with his ex while dating her and later maintained years of hidden pornography use. Despite countless promises to quit, he lied, relapsed, and gaslighted her, leaving her emotionally and physi…

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The SAL Recovery Puzzle - Time w/ Kaylene T. 36:08

21d ago36:08

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, Jonathan L. talks with guest Kaylene, who shares her powerful story of her betrayal trauma recovery journey after 20 years of struggle. They delve into the concept that recovery requires patience and time, illustrating how small, consistent actions over time can rebuild trust and promot…

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What does ACTUAL Accountability look like for a Porn/Sex Addict in REAL Recovery? 43:49

17d ago43:49

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In PBSE Episode 303, Mark and Steve respond to a betrayed partner's questions about what real accountability looks like for a recovering porn/sex addict. Real accountability in porn and sex addiction recovery is far more than saying “I’m sorry.” It’s a deep, ongoing process of taking full ownership of one’s actions, beginning with radical honesty t…

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My Partner says He Only Has Eyes for Me—but He’s Hooked on Porn—Should I Believe Him? 39:19

23d ago39:19

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In this PBSE episode (#302), Mark & Steve respond to a betrayed partner who faces an all-too-common form of "double-dealing." When a partner says “you’re the most beautiful woman in the world” but secretly consumes porn featuring people who look nothing like you—who are NOT you—the contradiction is deeply painful. It undermines trust, triggers feel…

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Navigating the Double Betrayal of Sexual and Financial Infidelity w/ Debra Kaplan 49:10

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland speaks to licensed therapist Debra Kaplan about the intricate link between financial infidelity and sexual betrayal, emphasizing the psychological and emotional impact on individuals and families. They explore the importance of a f…

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How Does a Porn/Sex Addict Coercing His Partner into Acting Out Fantasies Impact Them Both? 45:25

1M ago45:25

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By Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman

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Anonymous 2 (part two) 2:25:12

2M ago2:25:12

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The 4 of us from Anonymous 1 get back together and work a 4th step. Lots of new information from Josh and I, and you get to learn more about Kyle and James. It was a long episode so we split it into 2 episodes. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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When Touch Feels Like Pressure: Breaking Free from Over-Sexualization 46:50

1M ago46:50

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Episode 300 highlights the raw submission of a betrayed partner struggling with a husband who pressures her sexually despite her clear “not yet.” He gawked, grabbed, and dismissed her boundaries while excusing his behavior as a “high sex drive.” His minimization left her doubting herself, wondering if she was the problem. This dynamic illustrates h…

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Anonymous 2 (part one) 1:13:08

1M ago1:13:08

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The 4 of us from Anonymous 1 get back together and work a 4th step. Lots of new information from Josh and I, and you get to learn more about Kyle and James. It was a long episode so we split it into 2 episodes. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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The SAL Recovery Puzzle - Commitment w/ Lyman D. 47:25

2M ago47:25

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Jonathan L. welcomes guest Lyman D., who shares his powerful journey of commitment to recovery from sex addiction. Highlights include the importance of willingness, the transformative power of connection with a Higher Power, and the significance of taking actionable steps to mainta…

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Big Gestures, Broken Trust—Living in the Cycle of Empty Commitments 46:18

2M ago46:18

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In this episode (#299), Mark and Steve respond to a betrayed partner’s story of exhaustion after five years of broken promises from her addict spouse. Despite his grand gestures—weekly check-ins, new hobbies, and podcast listening—he repeatedly relapses and becomes defensive when confronted. This cycle leaves her hyper-vigilant, carrying the weight…

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As a Recovering Porn & Sex Addict—What Is Keeping Me In My Marriage? 35:23

2M ago35:23

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In this powerful PBSE conversation (Episode 298), we respond to a listener who vulnerably asked whether he is staying in his marriage out of love—or out of fear and obligation. Three and a half months into the space between Discovery Day and full therapeutic disclosure, he wonders if he can truly love his wife, or if he is staying simply because of…

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Jeff L 2:34:25

2M ago2:34:25

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Troubled, traumatic and a little bit hooligan. Jeff shares his childhood and how that path lead him to get clean at 17. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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"Everyone Thinks He’s Great . . . But They Don’t Know the Whole Story" 38:12

2M ago38:12

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In Episode 297, Mark & Steve respond to a heart-felt submission by a porn/sex addict in active recovery. He describes an ongoing situation that is very difficult for his betrayed partner and shows a great deal of genuine concern for her. Here's the issue—compliments by friends, family and others, aimed at an addict in recovery, can create painful t…

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[49] Brian Hatch Joins Us Again To Talk Gambling, Recovery and Giving Back By Helping Others Recover 1:09:00

2M ago1:09:00

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Hey all! Back again with my first non solo episode in a long time! I'm joined by Brian Hatch who has his own gambling recovery podcast titled All In The Addicted Gamblers Podcast. Please go listen. We talk what we've been up to in our recovery these days, how we help others and give back while sharing some stories along the way! Enjoy the episode! …

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[48] What If They Won't Get Help or Refuse Treatment? 21:38

2M ago21:38

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Hey everyone! Welcome back to another episode! In this episode I detail some struggles I'm having with a family member suffering with an addiction. I also detail what i do and my suggestions how to handle when someone you love refuses to accept help or treatment. Let me know what you think. [email protected]…

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Understanding Enmeshment and Its Impact on Sexual Addiction & Recovery w/ Kenneth Adams 41:54

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Kenneth Adams, a top expert in the field of enmeshment and sex addiction. Dr. Adams explains the concept of enmeshment, its impact on family dynamics, and how it may play a role in the development of sexual addiction. He discusses the difference betw…

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When Loving Him Means Losing Me—Do I Stay or Go?! 41:14

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When a partner reaches the heartbreaking point of saying, “I love him, but I feel I’m losing myself,” the question of staying or leaving becomes urgent. After 21 years of repeated betrayal, secrecy, and broken promises, one woman wonders how long she can endure the cycle. This PBSE episode (#296) unpacks that struggle, emphasizing that being lured …

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My Partner uses Porn to Punish Me for Not Losing Weight. How do I Recover from That?! 47:55

3M ago47:55

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This episode (#295) examines the devastating impact of a husband who weaponized pornography and withheld intimacy as punishment for his wife not meeting his “ideal” body standard. Over two decades, his rejection inflicted a “self-esteem massacre,” leaving her questioning how she could ever recover. We identify this behavior as rooted in immaturity,…

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Healing for Betrayed Partners with a Sexually Abusive Past (PART 2) 40:05

3M ago40:05

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This is PBSE Episode 295—When betrayal trauma collides with a history of childhood sexual abuse, partners often feel doubly overwhelmed, carrying both the scars of the past and the pain of the present. Silence, a survival strategy from childhood, often resurfaces in marriage, leaving betrayed partners afraid to voice their needs for fear of conflic…

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The SAL Recovery Puzzle - Seeking Spiritual Connection w/ Amber P 37:17

3M ago37:17

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, interim host Jonathan L. welcomes Amber, a participant in the SAL 12-step program, to discuss her journey of healing from betrayal trauma and deepening her spiritual connection with the God of her understanding. Amber shares her experiences of overcoming personal barriers to spiritual c…

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Kerry K 2:33:48

3M ago2:33:48

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Kerry is someone who I have a close relationship with for many years. Knowing his story at meeting level and some with the friendship I have with his daughter and granddaughter, I was excited to hear the early details of what he went through and how he ended up in recovery. Send us a text Support the show…

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The Impact of a Sexually Abusive Childhood on a Betrayed Partner (PART 1) 36:02

3M ago36:02

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In Episode 293, Mark ands Steve address how childhood sexual abuse is a form of complex trauma that imprints deeply on a survivor’s understanding of love, trust, and sexuality. It often distorts sexual norms, blurs boundaries between consent and compliance, and creates lasting confusion around intimacy. Survivors may develop insecure attachment sty…

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Larry E 2:30:08

4M ago2:30:08

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Larry gives us a deep account of the drug world from youth to adulthood. He also shares about the ups and downs of relationships and trying to navigate them. This was a fun episode for Josh and I. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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What Now? Helping Kids Already Struggling with Pornography w/ Geoff Steurer 47:23

4M ago47:23

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and therapist Geoff Steurer discuss principles to help youth already caught in the trap of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. The episode focuses on providing guidance to parents on creating a supportive environment where children feel safe discussi…

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I Keep Finding Myself Hurt In Relationships with Porn/Sex Addicts—How Do I Break the Cycle? 37:55

4M ago37:55

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This episode (#292) explores the repeated heartbreak many betrayed partners experience when they unknowingly enter relationships with porn or sex addicts, offering both empathy and practical strategies for breaking the cycle. It begins by affirming that betrayal is never the betrayed partner’s fault, highlighting how addicts often hide their behavi…

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Advice for Young Adults Balancing Mental Health, School, Life and Porn Addiction 40:26

4M ago40:26

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In response to a powerful message from an 18-year-old listener, Mark and Steve devote this episode to young adults balancing school, mental health, and porn addiction. They applaud the listener’s maturity and self-awareness and use his story as a springboard to discuss the foundational concepts of being “accountable” and “responsible.” They emphasi…

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Steve, Joseph & Ree 3:09:40

4M ago3:09:40

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I'm in Yuba City Ca with 3 friends doing a re-recording of an episode. The 3 of them share all the trauma, fears, resentments, reservations and much more. All 3 bring a great diversity to the episode. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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Can I Have a Healthy Relationship with my Addict Partner without him Sharing His Past? 42:22

4M ago42:22

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Episode 290 of the PBSE Podcast explores a powerful question submitted by a betrayed partner whose addict husband is in active recovery but refuses to discuss his past. The discussion centers on what real intimacy requires—emotional nakedness, vulnerability, and the willingness to be known. While many addicts hold back due to fear, shame, or cultur…

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My Betrayed Partner regularly Screams & Lashes Out . . . How can I Help Her? 37:29

4M ago37:29

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This episode tackles the heartfelt question of a recovering porn addict whose wife frequently screams, lashes out, and accuses him of lying—despite his efforts at sobriety and support. We emphasize that these outbursts often stem from deep, layered trauma, especially when relapse reopens old wounds. Recovery is not just about avoiding porn; it's ab…

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Theresa N 1:41:32

4M ago1:41:32

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Theresa shares tragedy and childhood confusion with us in an enlightening way. From her recovery mixed with Christianity, to our humanness in poor life choices. We get a great experience with recovery and spirituality. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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Addiction Recovery and the Power of Radical Honesty w/ Anna Lembke 39:56

5M ago39:56

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. This episode re-shares a foundational discussion with Dr. Anna Lembke, a leading expert in addiction medicine, on the importance of radical honesty in recovery. Dr. Lembke explains the neuroscience behind addiction, highlighting the roles of dopamine and the brain's pleasure-pain balance. The conversati…

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My Porn/Sex Addicted Partner tells me I just need to "Get over it" . . . So now what?! 38:13

5M ago38:13

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In this powerful episode, we address the heart-wrenching story of a betrayed partner whose marriage has been scarred by nearly two decades of emotional abuse, chronic dishonesty, and sexual betrayal. Despite having initiated divorce proceedings, she finds herself still seeking clarity and wondering if hope remains. Her husband, who continues to act…

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Roseanne S 2:00:17

5M ago2:00:17

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One of my very favorite people in the world. The best sponsor-in-law a guy could ask for. Roseanne shares her story from walking the streets of Watts in LA to becoming a cornerstone of recovery in every life she touches. We are blessed to have this interview. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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My Addict Partner Keeps going Through Cycles of Taking Me For Granted! What Do I Do? 33:26

5M ago33:26

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PBSE Podcast Episode 287 explores the recurring emotional turmoil experienced by a betrayed partner whose addict spouse continues to cycle through emotional relapses, despite seemingly engaging in recovery activities. Every six months, he emotionally regresses—questioning their relationship, doubting compatibility, and withdrawing connection—which …

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I'm Staying Away from Porn, But I Want to FEEL Repulsed by it. How? 40:08

5M ago40:08

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PBSE Podcast Episode 286, follows the journey of a man in early recovery who is not content with simply staying away from pornography—he wants to feel a deep emotional aversion to it. The article explores this desire for integrity and congruence, addressing how many men feel torn between what they know is harmful and what they are still wired to fi…

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The SAL Recovery Puzzle - Rigorous Honesty w/ Steve T 43:02

5M ago43:02

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. The NEW SAL Book is now available for purchase on the website! Come and get it here! In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, co-host Justin B, has an interesting and meaningful conversation with Steve T., a recovering sex and multidisciplinary addict. They delve into the topic of rigorous ho…

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Performance Anxiety” is Creating a WALL Between Me & My Betrayed Partner! What Advice do you have? 38:44

5M ago38:44

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In relationships impacted by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, performance anxiety often becomes more than a physical issue—it’s a symptom of deeper emotional disconnection, trauma, and mistrust. Drawing from a heartfelt message submitted to the PBSE Podcast, Episode 285 delves into how men in recovery may find themselves crippled by shame when…

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Kevin O 2:38:17

5M ago2:38:17

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Kevin talks about racism and family drug abuse growing up in a mexican household, and how his life of crime brought him into the rooms of recovery. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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My Addict Partner is Now Identifying as “Polyamorous” and I Don’t Agree. Now What? 39:33

6M ago39:33

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In Episode 284 of the PBSE podcast, we dive into the harrowing story of a woman navigating her husband’s sudden shift from sex addiction recovery to identifying as polyamorous. After years of pain, betrayal, and dedicated recovery work, she’s now facing a radical alteration in the foundation of their relationship. Her husband demands acceptance of …

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Crystal C 2:09:32

6M ago2:09:32

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A heart wrenching and hope giving episode. With a trauma filled childhood of unthinkable abuse to being diagnosed with cancer in recovery, Crystal shares from the heart about her journey. Send us a text Support the showBy The 4th Step

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Helping Parents and Faith Leaders Navigate Pornography With Youth w/ Sam Black 54:38

6M ago54:38

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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland talks with Sam Black, author of 'The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It'. They discuss the 5 Myths parents believe about pornography and their child and the impact of pornography on the developing brain. They also discuss how…