Best Lastingrelationships Podcasts (2025)

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257: Two Obvious (but IMPORTANT) Healthy Relationship Principles 41:23

4d ago41:23

41:23

What if the most important relationship skills were hiding in plain sight? In this episode, I return with two deceptively simple principles that form the foundation of ANY healthy relationship. Whether you're struggling with conflict, disconnection, or just want to take your relationships to the next level - these obvious (but often overlooked) tru…

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256 - Something Personal - Where I've Been and Where We're Going 48:08

11M ago48:08

48:08

I stepped away from the Relationship Alive podcast for a "quick break" that was only supposed to last a month or two. That break became a journey of two and a half years, diving deep into questions about life, and meaning, and whether or not Relationship Alive should even continue. The journey also included a humbling exploration of where Relations…

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255: How to Be Courageous (especially when it's hard) 56:52

3+ y ago56:52

56:52

It's easy to talk about being courageous - but how do you actually take action when it feels like a huge risk? Whether it's the decision to enter a relationship, or to leave a relationship, or all of the moments within a relationship when you might have to make a choice that feels a little edgy or scary - today's episode is going to focus on the pr…

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254: From a "Fair" Relationship to Radical Generosity - the 80/80 Marriage with Kaley and Nate Klemp 1:11:49

3+ y ago1:11:49

1:11:49

It's easy to talk about being generous in your relationship - but how do you actually put it into practice - especially when things feel unfair or out of balance? If you're stuck in fighting for fairness in your relationship, it's time to learn a new way of being together where shared success becomes the rule - not the exception. Today we're talkin…

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253: How to Keep Children from Wrecking Your Relationship - The Baby Bomb with Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin 1:08:15

3+ y ago1:08:15

1:08:15

How do you keep your relationship strong despite the pressures that child-rearing can create? And how can you leverage your attachment styles in how you show up for each other to improve your relationship along the way? Our guests are Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin, co-authors of the new book "Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents" -…

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252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict - Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis 1:07:21

3+ y ago1:07:21

1:07:21

When you can't be yourself in your relationship and avoid the tough conversations that you might need to have, it erodes your relationship AND your sense of self. Today we're going to focus on how to lean into conflict in ways most likely to lead to deeper connection with others as well as inner alignment within yourself. Our guest is Jayson Gaddis…

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251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis - with Pete Pearson 1:09:40

3+ y ago1:09:40

1:09:40

Are there ways to build trust in your relationship - even if you're in the middle of a crisis? How do you identify your relationship strengths - and use them in these most challenging moments? Today we have a return visit from Dr. Peter Pearson, co-founder of the Couple's Institute (along with his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader), and one of today's leading …

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250: Start Your Day with Being OK 52:16

3+ y ago52:16

52:16

How do you find the place within you that's "ok" no matter what? And how do you use that place as a resource to help you handle the things that aren't ok? In today's episode I'm going to give you a quick-and-easy way to start your day on the right foot - while at the same time getting a clear look at what just might need to change in your life...wi…

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249: When You're the One Doing ALL the Work 40:27

4y ago40:27

40:27

What do you do when you feel like you're the only one doing the work in your relationship? When things would just fall apart if you weren't on top of it? Or what can you do if things aren't going so well, and you're the only one who seems to care enough to try and make things different? And how do you know when it's time to stop trying...and walk a…

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248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship? 1:13:48

4y ago1:13:48

1:13:48

If your relationship is going to thrive and stand the test of time, then what are the essential ingredients for that to happen? What do you have the "right" to do - and experience - in your relationship? And - like any time that we have rights - what are the responsibilities that go along with those rights? After this week's episode, you'll be able…

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247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship 47:34

4y ago47:34

47:34

If you have an insecure attachment style (or your partner does - or both of you do) - can you have a healthy relationship? And how do you know if an issue that comes up is something that you'll actually be able to fix? Avoidant, anxious, island, wave - or secure - sure, it's helpful to be able to identify your attachment style - but what can you ac…

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246: How to Get Honest with Yourself 25:26

4y ago25:26

25:26

Have you ever gone through a major life change, and then, in retrospect, wondered how you could have possibly been living the way that you were living? Everything seemed so great at the time, right? Or, at least, great enough. But when the spell is broken, and the veil is lifted - suddenly everything looks different. Hindsight is 20/20 - and one of…

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245: How to Not Die Alone - Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating - with Logan Ury 1:15:49

4y ago1:15:49

1:15:49

Modern dating can be so challenging. Simply finding good people is challenging. Knowing how to take a relationship to the next level, when to commit, or when to get out of a relationship so that you can find something better - that’s challenging! Today we’re going to focus on all the ways that you can get out of your own way, and use the power of b…

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244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes 43:07

4+ y ago43:07

43:07

When you want to shift something in your life, sometimes the scale of the change can seem daunting. So how do you get from point A to point B (or...point Z) in a way that's actually doable - and sustainable? It can be tempting to take drastic actions to make big changes - but you might sabotage your changes by falling into your old habits. Today we…

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243: Ultimatums - The Good and The Bad 50:11

4+ y ago50:11

50:11

Are ultimatums ever a good idea? If so - when? If not, what can you do instead? What should you do if you receive an ultimatum from your partner? And how do you undo the damage that an ultimatum can do to a relationship? In this episode, we're going to cover all the ins and outs of what to do when you come up against a dealbreaker in your relations…

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242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song! 23:00

4+ y ago23:00

23:00

When emotions are stuck within you - how can you use your creativity to get things moving? Sometimes the muse within you is a quiet whisper - other times screaming for your attention. Today we'll talk about how to find the voice - and what to do once you have. And, towards the end, I'll share a song with you that arrived after recording my last epi…

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241: Breaking Up and Moving On - What's Normal? What's the "Right" Way? 53:58

4+ y ago53:58

53:58

When it comes to breaking up, is there a right way to do it? How long should it take for you to get over your ex? How do you know when it's time to see someone new? How do you deal with the way that your ex is handling the breakup? In this week's episode, we're going to cover what's "normal" in the breakup experience, and how to make sure that you …

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240: When You're in Conflict - How to Find Optimal Outcomes - with Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler 1:09:34

4+ y ago1:09:34

1:09:34

When you’re stuck in conflict, how do you step outside of the situation enough to identify ways to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck? Especially in ongoing conflict, just doing more of the same isn’t going to change your outcome. Our guest is Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler, author of Optimal Outcomes: Free Yourself from Conflict at Work, at H…

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239: How to Avoid the Negative Bypass 39:16

4+ y ago39:16

39:16

Do you ever feel like you *should* have gotten over something challenging - that you’ve grown, and learned from the experience, but that on some level it still haunts you? Or do you feel inner conflict around decisions that seem like they should be relatively clear-cut? Are you afraid of failure? It could very well be that you have bypassed or supp…

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238: Unmotivated Partners - What To Do? - with Pete Pearson 1:20:38

4+ y ago1:20:38

1:20:38

When your partner is unmotivated to change and has resorted to stonewalling - or blaming everything on you - what can you do? If you’re a therapist working with a couple in this situation, you’ll learn some valuable ways to directly address this issue and change the dynamics. In today’s episode, we have a return visit from Peter Pearson. He is a co…

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237: Overcoming Procrastination - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin 1:20:03

4+ y ago1:20:03

1:20:03

Do you ever procrastinate? If you’re looking for a way to finally stop putting things off - and get them done - then today’s episode is for you. As a follow-up to a session with me on being overwhelmed, David Burns has returned for a session to help me with my own procrastination. You’ll get to hear what works, what doesn’t, and - if you’re a thera…

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236: When Talking about How You Feel Goes Horribly Wrong 53:36

4+ y ago53:36

53:36

How do you talk about your feelings - without your partner getting reactive and defensive? There are some common mistakes that we make when talking about our feelings that can lead to it going horribly wrong. In today’s episode, we’ll cover ways that you can adjust how you talk about your feelings so that you’ll be most likely to stay connected - e…

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235: Microaggressions in Life and Love with Kevin Nadal 1:03:57

4+ y ago1:03:57

1:03:57

Are you undermining your connection with your partner, or the others in your life, with microaggressions? While the “little things” can be the building blocks of something amazing - they can also undermine the very fabric of how you relate with another person, perpetuating sexism, racism, or other unhealthy power dynamics. Today our guest is Kevin …

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234: The Anti-Relationship Episode 56:22

4+ y ago56:22

56:22

WARNING: If you’re looking for the typical hope and optimism that you can find on Relationship Alive, then this might not be the episode for you! After 233 episodes focused on how to have an amazing relationship, it feels like it’s time to ask the obvious question: Why? Let’s turn things on their head for a moment. Perhaps getting into a relationsh…

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233: What Makes a Marriage Last - with Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue 41:35

4+ y ago41:35

41:35

Let’s put the theory aside for a minute. When it comes to having a successful, long-lasting relationship, what has actually worked for couples whose relationships have stood the test of time? In order to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue interviewed 40 famous couples in successful relationships, to discover the…

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232: Solving the Acceptance Paradox - with Neil Sattin 35:14

5y ago35:14

35:14

In a relationship, it’s important to be able to accept your partner as they are. What if accepting your partner traps you in a relationship that isn’t healthy? What’s the balance between accepting your relationship as it is - and wanting to shift things without trying to turn your partner into someone different than who they are? If you value growt…

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231: How to Make Better Decisions in Your Relationships (and Avoid Common Pitfalls) - with Logan Ury 1:16:39

5y ago1:16:39

1:16:39

The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of the decisions that you make. So, when it comes to love - is there a way to make better choices and to identify your blind spots, to improve your chances of a long-lasting, thriving connection? Today’s guest, Logan Ury, is a Behavioral Scientist and author of the forthcoming book “How to…

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230: How to Win Any Argument 35:45

5y ago35:45

35:45

In today's world, it's challenging to avoid conflicts - whether with our intimate partners, or simply with people at the grocery store or on social media. How do you take control of any fight so that you can create the best outcome? How do you resolve conflicts in a way that helps bring you closer to others, instead of widening the divide between y…

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229: Sexting for Fun and Connection 1:06:54

5y ago1:06:54

1:06:54

Sexting - what is it? How do you do it? Why would you want to do it? And...most importantly...how do you ensure it goes well - and how do you keep it from going horribly wrong? Whether you have been with your partner for a long time - or are just getting to know someone - sexting can be a fun way to connect and expand the range of your intimacy wit…

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228: Facing Overwhelm - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin 2:24:23

5y ago2:24:23

2:24:23

If you’ve got big feelings going on - overwhelm, anxiety, depression, sadness, anger - how can you discover the valuable messages they contain, and then transform them rapidly into feeling good - or even great? In today’s episode, you’ll get to listen in as David Burns helps me bust through feelings of overwhelm - teaching me powerful techniques to…

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227: Racism, Racial Equity, and Relationships - with Neil Sattin 42:45

5y ago42:45

42:45

How do we confront our blind spots and tackle the ways that racism and privilege affect our relationships, our lives, our society? And...our podcasts? This week's episode is not meant to be a complete answer to those questions - just a beginning to the conversation. So today you'll hear more about the "hidden agenda" of Relationship Alive - how wha…

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226: Feeling Good - What Matters and What Doesn't - with David Burns 1:09:22

5y ago1:09:22

1:09:22

What can shift anxiety, depression, overwhelm, or simply feeling “down” - into feeling good, or even great? What are the hidden obstacles that get in the way? When it comes to improving your inner world, there are some things that consistently work. And there are other things that might help, but that aren’t nearly as effective. With more than 40 y…

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225: Overcoming Shame and Getting Real about Relationships 46:41

5y ago46:41

46:41

One of the biggest blocks to lasting intimacy is shame. Shame keeps us from being honest with ourselves, and our partners. And from truly owning what's real for us - what we actually want. In today's episode we're going to cover some of the many ways that shame gets in the way - and we'll also take a stand for what's possible when we allow ourselve…

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224: What Romance Novels Teach Us about Real-Life Love and Desire - with Mara Wells 1:05:22

5y ago1:05:22

1:05:22

Life doesn’t always lead to Happily Ever After (or Happily For Now) - like a romance novel. However, romance novels tap into something deep in our heart and psyche - keeping us turning the pages to see just how it’s all going to unfold. You can use the lessons from fiction to craft your own personal love adventure. This week we’re talking to Mara W…

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223: How to Boost Your Oxytocin for a Sense of Wellbeing - Even If You're Solo - with Jessica Zager 1:02:36

5y ago1:02:36

1:02:36

Sometimes you just need simple strategies to give yourself a boost. In today’s episode, we’re going to cover ways that you can increase your sense of wellbeing and connectedness - by harnessing your own biochemistry to foster oxytocin production. This can all be done solo - no partner required (though you can do them with a partner too). Our guest,…

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222: Hints to Improve Digital Intimacy and Stay Sane (and Connected) during a Lockdown 27:42

5y ago27:42

27:42

Sometimes all it takes is a simple adjustment to create a much deeper connection with another person. Today I'll offer you some obvious-but-not-so-obvious ways to foster intimacy - whether you're cooped up with another, or connecting digitally. In this episode I'm also sharing some of the ways that I create deep presence when I'm using video chat t…

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221: Love in the Time of Coronavirus - COVID19 and Your Relationships 45:53

5y ago45:53

45:53

How is coronavirus (COVID-19) impacting you? What are the implications of "social distancing" on your relationship - especially if you're cooped up together for weeks at a time? Or if you're single, how can you still enjoy dating while staying safe? In this week's episode, you'll get some strategies for taking care of yourself amidst the epidemic, …

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220: Reclaiming (and Enjoying) Your Sexual Self - Taking Sexy Back with Alexandra Solomon 1:06:26

5y ago1:06:26

1:06:26

What turns you on, and what turns you off? How do you get past the messages about sex that have been handed to you by others - to discover your own personal sexuality that emerges from within? How do you own your deepest desires - and then communicate them to your partner in a way that stands the best chance of having them be realized? In today’s e…

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219: Your Questions Answered - More on Judgment and Grieving 46:35

5y ago46:35

46:35

It can be easy to avoid being judgmental with people that aren't close to you, but what do you do when you feel yourself getting critical or testing the people with whom you're the most vulnerable? How do you shift from judging back to connection? How do you deal with the pain that you might uncover when you own the fears at the heart of being judg…

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218: Sacred Instructions - Indigenous Wisdom for Your Relationship - with Sherri Mitchell 1:12:23

5y ago1:12:23

1:12:23

How do we heal ourselves, our relationships, and the world we live in - all at once? How has our society created rifts within us (and between us) that get in the way of fulfilling relationships? With indigenous wisdom that has been handed down over thousands of years, today’s guest will help you heal the splits in your life and develop deeper integ…

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217: How to Heal after a Breakup 51:12

5y ago51:12

51:12

How do you heal after a breakup or divorce? Whether you’re going through a breakup now, have been through a breakup and still have some cleanup work to do, or...well...maybe you will be going through a breakup at some point in the future...this episode is for you. No matter which way you slice it - the ending of a relationship can be challenging. T…

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216: Steering Clear of Judging Yourself and Others 42:37

5+ y ago42:37

42:37

Do you judge others or yourself harshly? How do you get past the judgment to a place where you can see a situation clearly, set appropriate boundaries, and change things for the better? In this week's episode, we're going to cover what to do when your occasionally judgmental nature gets in the way of positive connections with others - or yourself. …

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215: Your Erotic Blueprint - The Work of Jaiya - with Ian Ferguson 1:30:56

5+ y ago1:30:56

1:30:56

What turns you on - and what turns you off? Once you know your erotic blueprint type, it’s so much easier to have the kind of intimacy that you most deeply desire. And when you hit a snag in the sexual sphere of your relationship, it could be that you and your partner haven’t quite learned each other’s erotic languages - leading to sexual miscommun…

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214: Do Breakups Have To Be Messy? 44:41

5+ y ago44:41

44:41

While some kind of issue is going to be at the heart of every breakup, how do you get past the issues and create a breakup that's kind, generous, and respectful? How do you find compassion and understanding within the pain and grief? When it comes to conscious uncoupling, or divorce, are there ways to make the process easier on yourself and your so…

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213: How to Handle an Aching Heart - with Guy Finley 1:30:50

5+ y ago1:30:50

1:30:50

What do you do when you're suffering? How do you escape patterns of blaming in your relationship, and find the place within you that can turn painful moments into growth, and transformation? And how do you know when you've experienced too much pain - when it's time to move on? This week, we’re having a return visit with Guy Finley, author of the ne…

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212: Something Deeply Personal - with Neil Sattin 50:11

5+ y ago50:11

50:11

For quite awhile now I've been mentioning that there have been some challenges and changes going on in my life. This week, I'm going to share some of that with you. I've waited awhile for the timing to be right, so please take a moment and join me for a glimpse into my world and all that's been happening. Sponsors: Find a quality therapist, online,…

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211: Sometimes You Just Have to Stop - with Neil Sattin 43:42

5+ y ago43:42

43:42

With all the focus on ways to improve your relationship, growth and change can become something of an obsession. Especially if things are painful! However, sometimes all the efforts to change can create even more problems. So...it's helpful to know when it's time to just...stop. There are particular ways of "stopping" that can actually be beneficia…

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210: How to Escape the Drama Triangle - with Stephen Karpman 1:27:22

5+ y ago1:27:22

1:27:22

Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared - you’re going to start seeing it EVERYWHERE. Today you’ll learn how to spot it - and even better, how to escape it. Our guest is Dr. Stephen Ka…

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209: How to Communicate about Your Emotions - with Neil Sattin 35:23

5+ y ago35:23

35:23

How do you communicate about your feelings in the most effective way possible? While we're at it, how do you even *feel* your feelings so that they can move through you - instead of getting stuck or repressed? And, as you learn how to communicate about your feelings - what does the way that people respond to you tell you about them? In this week's …

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208: Sex and Porn Addiction - Myths and Reality - with Paula Hall 1:05:55

5+ y ago1:05:55

1:05:55

How do you know if you, or someone you love, is addicted to sex, or porn? What can you do about it? And along with healing patterns of addiction, what is most helpful for the partners of people with addiction? Our guest today is Paula Hall, one of the world’s leading experts on treating sex and porn addiction, and the author of “"Understanding and …

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