A structured routine in recovery doesn't just help you stay sober—it allows you to grow mentally, emotionally, and physically. By incorporating the right habits, you’re not only laying the foundation for your day, but also taking a huge step in your recovery as a whole by being intentional with your time, energy and resources. Positive habits ensur…

If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse. You can have results or you can have excuses, but never both. If you want to progress in any area in life, you must take accountability and leave the excuses at the door. Progress is not possible when excuses are being made. If you want to eliminate excuses,…

One of the things people fail to realize is that events are impersonal and indifferent. If you're in a bad mood or struggling with certain things in life, typically the perspective we hold is the real issue. Challenging times can be the greatest gift given to us because it forces strength upon us. We cannot grow without adversity which means advers…

Sobriety is not only about being abstinent. Things will improve and our quality of life can certainly get better just by subtracting drugs and alcohol, but that in itself is not the end goal. There are other aspects to life we need to focus on in order to enjoy life after we get sober because if we neglect certain things, we can suffer in sobriety …

People tend to do the most suffering when they refuse to make changes or adjustments in parts of their life that are no longer serving them. If you aren't in a good place mentally, emotionally, physically or Spiritually... something needs to change. Because if you don't, the suffering will only continue and get worse. Without change, we stop growin…

Greatness is only achieved by winning each and every day. Your future outcome is going to be dependent on the attitude, perspective and behaviors you consistently posses on a daily basis. When we win each day by taking little steps in the right direction mentally, emotionally, physically and Spiritually, personal greatness is not only possible, but…

When you blame others, you give up your power to change. Accountability isn't about guilt or shame; it's about taking your power back. The moment you stop blaming and start owning the choices you've made, you take back control of your life and your recovery. Refuse the "victim mentality" at all costs, it will never lead to success or fulfillment. I…

When we aren't being honest with ourselves or living life authentically, we pay the ultimate price. You may be able to fool other people, but you can't fool yourself. When we numb ourselves with drugs and alcohol we are diminishing internally, moving further away from our potential and who we really are. Being unapologetically yourself is the only …

Most people view addiction as a curse or a negative thing, but I believe it's a massive blessing if you know how to reframe your perspective on it. There is an opportunity to every challenge or obstacle that comes your way. Addiction is filled with painful lessons, but extremely valuable lessons in the journey of life. If you learn from it, you can…

Having a vision for yourself and where you want to go is critical in having a fulfilling life. Without being intentional, we end up with a lifestyle that we really don't want, and we suffer because of it. You are the captain to your own ship; your boat will go only in the direction you steer in. Everything that exists in this world once started as …

When we get caught up in our own selfish desires, a lot of times we are operating out of fear, greed, envy and ego. Our energy is not where it should be which guarantees we will attract things we don't want. However, working towards goals and ambitions with a sense of optimism, gratitude, detachment and Faith will bring us exactly where we need to …

One of the most important things we need to solve is why we are here. What is your purpose? The longer we go without the answer to this question, the more pain we endure. Finding your calling in life is the cornerstone to fulfillment and being in pursuit of your calling will set you free. When you are serving a bigger purpose, you are free from you…

Every New Year people make resolutions that never stick. It's easy to say things are going to change but once the "motivation" wears off, people tend to go back to old habits that are comfortable. We must be intentional with our goals if we want to reach them because they won't be reached by accident. A standard must be held and it takes extreme ac…

What if I told you that you aren't where you want to be in life because of the perspective you have? Our life is going to be a reflection of our attitude, behaviors and perspective. If you're focused on the negative of a situation you are going to get negative results and the same is true for the opposite. If you struggle with keeping a positive at…

If we don't have strong boundaries in sobriety, we end up putting ourselves in vulnerable positions that are extremely unhealthy. Not to mention we eventually end up being resentful, manipulated, unfulfilled and discontent with our life. One of the most important things you can do is stay true to who you are and your own personal goals and ambition…

Sometimes we become used to living a certain way and we think that change is impossible or not in the cards for us. The fear of change can paralyze you even if it represents something positive. In active addiction, we become accustomed to suffering and we start to believe that "this is just how life is". Even in sobriety, we might settle into a lif…

There are a lot of practical tools we can go to when it comes to staying sober and improving our lives on a daily basis; working out, journaling, meditation, therapy, self-development etc. But there is one thing that trumps all which hardly ever gets talked about. Tune into this episode to understand what can take your sobriety to the next level. I…

Whether we realize it or not, drugs and alcohol fill some type of void within ourselves which is what leads to an addiction. It solves some type of problem and gives us "peace" internally, even if your external circumstances can be in complete chaos. Using drugs and alcohol isn't a true path to joy though, nor is it sustainable. It's important to u…

One of the most important things in sobriety is making sure you're spending your time with healthy people. In early recovery, a lot of people try to hold onto old friendships/ relationships that are clearly toxic, and it only ends in a few ways (none of them are good). If we want a new life, we have to be willing to shed our old one. The people who…

When we aren't living up to our own standards and we conduct ourselves in a way that doesn't reflect who we truly are at heart, guilt and shame is typically the end result. The reason why addiction leads to guilt and shame is because we know that we are living well below our own standards and the longer we are struggling, the more guilt and shame b…

Do you feel like you have trouble finding purpose in life? Or that you struggle with finding joy, contentment or fulfillment? In this episode Connor talks about the main driving force behind a life of fulfillment and the path you can take to make sure you get there yourself. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-…

Many people regret the past, not realizing that the lessons we learn from the mistakes we make are some of the most crucial times in our lives. Instead of focusing on the negative side of our past, we can flip things and take advantage of it if we look at it the right way. As long as we become a better person by learning from our mistakes, regret s…

As our addiction progresses, we become accustomed to living a certain way that doesn't align with who we truly are. We change for the worse over a long enough timeline in many different areas of life. In order to break the cycle of addiction, we need to embrace discomfort and accept change as a necessary step to getting better. If you struggle with…

Everybody wants to know the magic trick to getting sober. Everybody wants the quick fix. In this episode Connor talks about the one thing that helped him get sober the most above everything else. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862By Connor Duffy

Sobriety isn't just about abstinence from drugs or alcohol but it's really about working on our character defects, flaws and desire for immediate gratification. We need to change from within and a big part of that is learning how to control our emotions. There are many things in our lives that we can't control but we do get to control our attitude,…

There is no such thing as being too dumb to get sober, but there is such a thing as being "too smart". People tend to stay sober after some form of guidance and mentorship whether that be rehab, 12 step meetings, coaching or other support groups. In most cases it takes humility and acceptance to get sober because this is when we are the most willin…

There comes a time when you realize that you need to change certain behaviors that are clearly holding you back from progressing in life, yet we remain hesitant on following through to make a change. One of the reasons is because we tend to overwhelm ourselves with the mountain that we have to climb. We look at the big picture and all the work that…

There comes a time in our lives where we know we aren't living to our potential, we know we're making choices that are contributing to our pain and we know that there's more to life than what we're currently experiencing. Pain is a strong motivator and when we're struggling in life, we tend to start asking important questions that we ignore for a l…

It's easy to get caught up in worrying about the future or living with regret from our actions in the past. But at the end of the day, the only thing we have is the present moment. If we move forward and do the next right thing each and every day, we will be able to appreciate the gift of the present moment more and more. However, continuing to mak…

One of the biggest misconceptions about getting sober is that you magically become ready to do it. The truth is sobriety can be uncomfortable because it represents change, and it's a significant one at that. But oftentimes we can never be fully prepared for what's to come when we are making a big change in our life. Being "ready" is a delusional th…

People fear change. Human beings are creatures of habit, and we find comfort in our routines even if they're unhealthy ones. The key is to change your mindset about change and fear itself. In this episode Connor gives 3 tips to overcome any fears you have in your life right this moment. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor dire…

It's normal to feel overwhelmed in early sobriety. A lot of change is happening, and we're not accustomed to handling life's problems or our emotions in a sober state of mind. In this episode, Connor gives 2 important tips when you're feeling overwhelmed with the stress that comes with recovery.By Connor Duffy

By Connor Duffy

By Connor Duffy

We're going to have tough days in sobriety and that's okay as long as we respond instead of react. A big part of recovery is gaining control over your emotions, not letting your emotions control you. If you struggle with that, these 3 tips can help you. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862…

Many people fear getting sober and a lot of times they don't understand why. What you don't realize is that the fear of getting sober is what keeps you sick and suffering. There are essentially 2 reasons that people fear getting sober and once you know how to address those fears, recovery becomes much more obtainable. If you're struggling with addi…

Growth and comfort do not live on the same block. If you want things in life you're going to have to work for them; physically, mentally, emotionally, Spiritually, financially, sobriety etc. It takes discipline in order to be the person we aspire to be. If you want to have a fulfilling life, you have to be willing to do the ugly work that isn't app…

There are a lot of misconceptions about sobriety that aren't really true but generally believed. A lot of people get sober and they believe abstinence by itself is going to be enough to have a good life. I disagree. Getting sober doesn't guarantee a good life, it just gives us the opportunity to have the type of life we want... If we're willing to …

Sometimes we forget what the point of sobriety is, and we need reminders that the process of sobriety is actually worth it. If you feel like you lose hope or Faith that recovery is worth the effort, these 3 reasons will be a big reminder of why. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directly at 203-917-8862…

Rock bottom doesn't need to come in the form of homelessness, loss of family, getting arrested or an overdose. A lot of times it happens from within. We suffer when we drift away from who we know we're supposed to be. We suffer when we fail to reach our potential. And when we're struggling with addiction we tend to suffer in all areas of our life, …

A lot of people complain about the fact that life isn't fair and they develop a victim mentality which makes excuses for where they are in life. It is true, life isn't fair.. and it's one of the things we should be most grateful for. In this episode Connor explains exactly why. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directl…

Ever wondered what it took to get sober? Have you ever thought that it wasn't possible for you to get clean because you had failed attempts in the past and you feel like you're "too far gone"? If that describes you, this podcast will help you break through those self limiting beliefs. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach Connor directl…

Addiction goes deeper than the physical reliance on a substance. We are mentally and emotionally conditioned to make decisions that put us in bad positions and unhealthy situations. The scary part is a lot of times this is happening subconsciously and we don't even recognize it until it's too late and we are on a path towards relapse. If you want t…

Addiction turns us into people that we were never meant to be. The longer we drink or use the more we tend to drift away from our true selves. Eventually we live a life of quiet desperation and we become all too familiar with emotions of regret, remorse shame and guilt. If you struggle with that this episode is for you. If you're struggling with ad…

When people are first getting sober, it seems like a daunting task to begin with. Not only is it difficult to do, but many people don't even know if a good life is possible for them without drinking or using drugs, never mind a fulfilling or successful life. It seems like a completely foreign concept. In this episode Connor talks about what success…

By Connor Duffy

Your addiction will lie to you but have you convinced it's the truth despite all the evidence to the contrary. Addicts and alcoholics are masters of manipulation, justification and rationalizing because it's the only way we can continue doing the wrong thing for so long. But there comes a time when we can't lie to ourselves any longer and we are fo…

When you have cravings and urges do you feel like you aren't sure what to do? Do you feel overwhelmed by thoughts of relapse? These thoughts are going to come and you need to be prepared when they do because they don't just disappear over night. But in this episode Connor will remind you of one powerful tool to keep in mind when cravings come your …

Addiction isn't just a pill problem or an alcohol problem. It is a problem of the mind. The way an alcoholic thinks is the real issue because they repeat the same behavior over and over while expecting a different result. If you want to get sober you must realize that lies are being fed to you and you need to get honest with yourself. In this episo…

Life places significant challenges in our path no matter who you are. It's not something we can avoid. The key is understanding that challenges aren't in our way, they ARE the way. We should be viewing obstacles as opportunities for growth and they are imperative for us to become our best self. If you struggle seeing things this way, this episode i…