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What if aggression, sex drive, risk-taking, and status-seeking aren’t toxic at all? Licensed therapist and veteran Tim Wienecke reframes four core masculine traits from Richard Reeves’ Of Boys and Men and shows how to channel them through Service · Discipline · Connection · Expression.

These traits aren’t moral judgments or gender rules—they’re descriptive, not prescriptive. Calling them “masculine” doesn’t mean they belong only to men; it means they tend to appear more often or more intensely in men as a group. The goal isn’t to label them good or bad—it’s to use them effectively.

From early aggression in toddlers to sexual motivation, risk-taking, and the drive for status, Tim explores how each can become either destructive or deeply connective depending on how it’s guided.

Fact Check Highlights: Boys show 5× more early aggression (Tremblay 1999); men make up 79 % of violent crime (FBI 2022); women are ~60–65 % of living kidney donors (UNOS 2024); testosterone rises after wins and falls after losses (Carré 2015).

Full notes → www.americanmasculinity.com

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The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
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