In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' the host, Missy, delves into the concept of real self-care and distinguishes it from escapism. She emphasizes the importance of not just engaging in popular self-care activities like yoga, meditation, and therapy, but actually doing the hard work of feeling and processing emotions such as shame, anger, and grief. Missy shares her personal journey, including years of unproductive therapy and repressed emotions, and stresses the importance of finding the right therapist and being truly self-compassionate. The discussion covers the challenges of setting boundaries, the cultural pressures in the U.S. around work ethic, and the need for genuine rest. Missy invites listeners to rethink their approaches to self-care, focusing on what genuinely renews and heals rather than merely consuming information or engaging in surface-level activities.