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Why Do I Self Sabotage?!
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We explore why self-sabotage shows up when life is going well and how the nervous system uses it as protection. We share simple tools to build internal safety, reframe failure, and keep momentum without burning out.
• defining self‑sabotage as protection, not laziness
• discomfort, avoidance, and procrastination patterns
• fear of failure and fear of success dynamics
• imposter thoughts and cognitive distortions
• chaos, hypervigilance, and dopamine’s novelty drop
• curiosity over shame as a core strategy
• the 90‑second rule to ride emotional waves
• sensory grounding, anchors, and visualization
• reframing failure and choosing aligned actions
• trimming “shoulds” and setting value‑based goals
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Chapters
1. Meet Laura and Michaela (00:00:00)
2. Defining Self‑Sabotage (00:00:55)
3. Discomfort, Avoidance, And Procrastination (00:03:00)
4. Fear Of Failure And Success (00:05:05)
5. Imposter Syndrome Stories (00:07:40)
6. Chaos, Hypervigilance, And Burnout (00:09:45)
7. Dopamine, Novelty, And Overcommitment (00:12:35)
8. The Tyranny of “Shoulds” (00:15:20)
9. Curiosity Over Shame (00:17:05)
10. Reframing Failure And Tolerating Feelings (00:19:10)
11. Building Internal Safety: 90‑Second Rule (00:21:15)
12. Senses, Grounding, And Anchors (00:23:10)
13. Visualization And Memory As Safe Places (00:25:00)
14. Past Roots, Present Choices (00:26:45)
15. Takeaways And Closing (00:28:05)
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