Why Am I So Lonely?!
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We explore the science behind why human connection is essential for survival, from attachment theory to why our brains respond so profoundly to face-to-face interaction. Loneliness isn't simply being alone but a profound feeling of disconnection that can persist even when surrounded by others.
• Connection is crucial for safety and releases positive neurochemicals in our brains
• Attachment theory explains our innate survival need to connect with caregivers
• Digital connections don't activate the same neural networks as face-to-face interactions
• Spending just 15 minutes daily in meaningful connection can transform relationships
• We often defend against connection due to past experiences of rejection or pain
• Modern society facilitates isolation through remote work, delivery services, and digital communication
• Low-stakes practice like talking to service workers helps build connection skills
• Connection to ourselves is the foundation for connecting with others
• Repairing disconnected relationships requires persistence through initial discomfort
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This show is sponsored by:
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Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
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Active Healing Psychiatric Services
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Chapters
1. Welcome to Why Am I Like This (00:00:00)
2. Why Connection is Essential for Survival (00:01:40)
3. Defenses Against Attachment (00:05:10)
4. The 15-Minute Connection Rule (00:08:33)
5. Solitude vs. Loneliness (00:16:57)
6. Breaking Isolation Habits (00:20:05)
7. Low-Stakes Practice for Connection (00:31:22)
8. Repairing Disconnected Relationships (00:35:54)
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