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This week, Laura and Crystal unravel the messy, misunderstood concept of nagging—and spoiler alert, it’s not just a "you problem." We’re diving headfirst into the nag paradox, that familiar dynamic where one partner becomes the designated project manager of the household… and the other somehow forgets how time works.

From cringey comic strip tropes (hello, bathrobe lady with the slipper) to the emotional weight of carrying the mental load, we break down why nagging isn’t about being “overbearing”—it’s often a desperate bid to feel seen, heard, and understood in a system that undervalues care work.

We explore how this pattern plays out in everyday moments, like who’s picking up the kids, and how resentment builds when you’re forced to either ask for help perfectly or just do it yourself. We also talk about how neurodivergence, gender roles, and unspoken emotional labor all collide to make this a setup for burnout—and sometimes, abuse.

Plus:

  • How to spot the difference between weaponized incompetence and skill gaps
  • What emotional safety in conflict really looks like
  • Why “division of labor” doesn’t always equal equity
  • When it’s okay to say, “this is enough” and walk away

Whether you’ve felt like the “default parent,” are trying to unlearn your own baggage, or are questioning how to rebalance your relationship, this episode is your big, validating exhale.

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Content provided by Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, Laura Danger, and Crystal Britt. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, Laura Danger, and Crystal Britt or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

This week, Laura and Crystal unravel the messy, misunderstood concept of nagging—and spoiler alert, it’s not just a "you problem." We’re diving headfirst into the nag paradox, that familiar dynamic where one partner becomes the designated project manager of the household… and the other somehow forgets how time works.

From cringey comic strip tropes (hello, bathrobe lady with the slipper) to the emotional weight of carrying the mental load, we break down why nagging isn’t about being “overbearing”—it’s often a desperate bid to feel seen, heard, and understood in a system that undervalues care work.

We explore how this pattern plays out in everyday moments, like who’s picking up the kids, and how resentment builds when you’re forced to either ask for help perfectly or just do it yourself. We also talk about how neurodivergence, gender roles, and unspoken emotional labor all collide to make this a setup for burnout—and sometimes, abuse.

Plus:

  • How to spot the difference between weaponized incompetence and skill gaps
  • What emotional safety in conflict really looks like
  • Why “division of labor” doesn’t always equal equity
  • When it’s okay to say, “this is enough” and walk away

Whether you’ve felt like the “default parent,” are trying to unlearn your own baggage, or are questioning how to rebalance your relationship, this episode is your big, validating exhale.

🛠️ Resources Mentioned:

👂Want more?

If Apple Podcasts dropped us off your feed (rude), re-follow us so you don’t miss future episodes! And as always, leave us a review or share with a friend who needs to know: You’re not overreacting. You’re just exhausted.

Get bonus content on Patreon

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  continue reading

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