What if love isn’t just luck—but something you can actually measure? In this episode of Write Your Own Story, Betsy sits down with author and researcher Zoey Charif to unpack her groundbreaking book Love Can In Fact Be Calculated, a bold and refreshing look at the science of love, self-worth, and modern dating.

From heartbreak and healing to data and destiny, Zoey shares how her personal journey led her to develop a formula that predicts compatibility, highlights the importance of values and traits, and—most importantly—places self-confidence at the very heart of love.

Together, Betsy and Zoey talk about the complexity of modern dating, the comparison traps of social media, why marriage is still treated as a “status symbol,” and how women can stop settling and start honoring their standards. This is not just a conversation about relationships—it’s a roadmap for every woman ready to choose herself first.

Tune in for:

• Why self-worth is the foundation for attracting healthy love
• The surprising role admiration plays in lasting relationships
• How to spot (and break) destructive dating patterns
• Why settling leads to resentment—and why holding out leads to joy
• A framework for checking in with yourself and your partner over time

Whether you’re single, dating, divorced, or in a long-term relationship, this conversation is both empowering and practical. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to shrink, you don’t need to rush, and you are worthy of love that feels as extraordinary as you are.

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