Here's a question nobody asked me when I was in the deepest crisis of my life: What do YOU want?

Instead, I got "just pray about it" and "God has a plan" and "marriage is hard." I was asking everyone - my mom, my friends, my therapist, even God - what I should do about my relationship. Meanwhile, my body was shutting down systems trying to get me to listen.

At 23, I woke up completely deaf in my right ear. The doctors said it was sudden sensorineural hearing loss. I knew exactly what it was: my body taking away the one sense I kept using to seek everyone else's permission instead of trusting what I already knew.

In this episode, I'm sharing that story and the pattern underneath it - how women are trained from childhood to question their own reactions, seek external validation, and override their body's wisdom. And why "Am I overreacting?" is the red flag that you're about to abandon yourself.

What We're Covering:

• How religious and cultural conditioning taught you to distrust your body's signals
• Why "overreacting" is gaslighting language designed to make you question valid feelings
• The setup that keeps you doubting yourself: feel something → express it → get told you're too sensitive → apologize for having needs
• What your body is actually reading when someone calls you dramatic (hint: accurate information they don't want to acknowledge)
• The exact reframe that stops the self-abandonment cycle
• Why your body will eventually make the choice for you if you keep overriding it

The Truth: You weren't born needing everyone else's opinion before trusting your own. You were trained to seek external answers instead of internal knowing. Every time you ask "Am I overreacting?" you're prioritizing someone else's comfort over your own truth. Your body isn't hysterical - it's a highly sophisticated system reading people and environments with more accuracy than your conscious mind. The whispers will become screams. And if you ignore the screams, your body will shut something down to make you finally listen.

Learn to Trust Your Body: Download the free Body Wisdom Guide - get the map of where fear vs. knowing lives in your body, the 60-second check-in practice, and the questions to ask when you need clarity.

If I'd had this 12 years ago, I might still have my hearing. You don't have to wait for your body to shut something down.

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Be brave, not perfect, my girl!

Xx,

KD

Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal stories, experiences, and reflections on relationships, consciousness work, and personal growth. The content is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health support, medical advice, or therapeutic treatment. If you're experiencing crisis, abuse, or severe mental health symptoms, please reach out to a qualified professional. Your journey is your own - trust yourself to know what support you need and when you need it.