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Why Avoidants Don’t Care About Your Birthday
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When your birthday comes and your Dismissive Avoidant partner barely acknowledges it, it can feel like they just don’t care. But what’s really happening underneath that silence isn’t usually indifference — it’s emotional conditioning and self-protection at play.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants seem to ignore birthdays or special occasions, and what’s actually going on in their subconscious mind and nervous system. You’ll discover the neuroscience behind emotional suppression, how early experiences shape avoidant reactions, and what you can do to respond with both compassion and self-respect.
You’ll learn:
✅ The 5 key psychological reasons Dismissive Avoidants pull away on important days
✅ How childhood emotional neglect shapes their response to celebration and intimacy
✅ What brain studies reveal about emotional suppression, empathy, and joy
✅ Why Avoidants minimize birthdays, and what it really says about their attachment wounds
✅ How to communicate your needs clearly without triggering defensiveness
✅ When to stay compassionate and when to recognize a pattern that won’t change
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
01:09 – 1. Emotional Intimacy Feels Unsafe for Dismissive Avoidants
03:34 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Often Feel a Sense of Learned Helplessness
04:23 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Detachment
06:01 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo
06:48 – 3. They Think Emotional Neediness is a Sign of Weakness
08:03 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation
08:54 – 5. They Never Experience Consistent Emotional Celebrations
09:50 – If You’re on the Receiving End
12:13 – Conclusion
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
328 episodes
Manage episode 515204115 series 2928089
Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good!
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-23-25&el=podcast
When your birthday comes and your Dismissive Avoidant partner barely acknowledges it, it can feel like they just don’t care. But what’s really happening underneath that silence isn’t usually indifference — it’s emotional conditioning and self-protection at play.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants seem to ignore birthdays or special occasions, and what’s actually going on in their subconscious mind and nervous system. You’ll discover the neuroscience behind emotional suppression, how early experiences shape avoidant reactions, and what you can do to respond with both compassion and self-respect.
You’ll learn:
✅ The 5 key psychological reasons Dismissive Avoidants pull away on important days
✅ How childhood emotional neglect shapes their response to celebration and intimacy
✅ What brain studies reveal about emotional suppression, empathy, and joy
✅ Why Avoidants minimize birthdays, and what it really says about their attachment wounds
✅ How to communicate your needs clearly without triggering defensiveness
✅ When to stay compassionate and when to recognize a pattern that won’t change
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
01:09 – 1. Emotional Intimacy Feels Unsafe for Dismissive Avoidants
03:34 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Often Feel a Sense of Learned Helplessness
04:23 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Detachment
06:01 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo
06:48 – 3. They Think Emotional Neediness is a Sign of Weakness
08:03 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation
08:54 – 5. They Never Experience Consistent Emotional Celebrations
09:50 – If You’re on the Receiving End
12:13 – Conclusion
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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