The REAL Reason Dismissive Avoidants Come Back

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Dismissive Avoidants have a habit of resurfacing after breakups — sometimes weeks, sometimes months later — leaving their partners wondering why. But the real reason they come back runs much deeper than nostalgia or loneliness.

In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the true emotional mechanics behind why Dismissive Avoidants return after a breakup. You’ll discover how delayed emotional processing, fear cycles, and subconscious associations drive their behavior — and how to respond in a way that protects your boundaries and emotional wellbeing.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants process relationship pain on a delay
✅ How “feelings minus fears” influence their pull-back and return cycles
✅ Why distance can temporarily dissolve their fears and reignite feelings
✅ What to look for when they reach out between genuine reconnection vs. surface contact
✅ How to protect your boundaries and avoid getting stuck in an emotional loop
✅ The key to truly healing from a breakup is meeting your own needs and rewriting painful stories

Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
00:20 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Don't Process Their Hurt Around Relationships in a Normal Way
01:41 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are in Their Feelings Minus Their Fears
02:35 – Other Surface-Level Reasons
02:59 – Step 1: Are They Willing to Do the Work to Reconnect?
03:37 – Step 2: Heal the Needs That the Person Represented
04:43 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo
05:27 – Conclusion

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants come back helps you detach from confusion, protect your peace, and approach reconnection or closure with self-respect and clarity.

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