Hey love! Welcome back to the Tattooed Truth Podcast.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most transformational topics I’ve personally lived through: how attachment shapes our identity in relationships and how to reclaim your sense of self after heartbreak or loss.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying “I don’t know who I am without them,” or even “I don’t know who I am inside this relationship,” this episode is for you. Together, we explore how early childhood conditioning and attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure, impact how we love, connect, and lose ourselves in relationships.

I share my story of losing my identity in an eight-year relationship, how conditional love shaped my patterns, and the moment I finally reclaimed my voice and self-worth. You’ll learn practical ways to rebuild your sense of self after heartbreak, regulate your nervous system, and rewrite your inner story.

This isn’t just about healing from someone else; it’s about remembering who you were before you learned you had to earn love.

⏱ Episode Timestamps
[00:00:57] How attachment shapes our identity in relationships
[00:03:40] The subconscious blueprint of love and safety
[00:05:55] Understanding the four attachment styles
[00:09:29] Anna’s story: the eight-year relationship that defined her identity
[00:13:25] Why we chase what hurts — and mistake conditional love for real love
[00:15:48] Why breakups feel like death (and how to grieve the old identity)
[00:17:44] Who are you when you’re not performing for love?
[00:19:12] Regulating your nervous system and creating inner safety
[00:21:22] Mirror gazing and reprogramming your story
[00:23:23] Reparenting yourself: shifting from anxious to secure attachment

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