Softening Around Jealousy: The Cost of Comparison
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This is part two of the Emotions Are Expensive: the emotional cost of doing business and how to stop paying it Series.
In Emotions Are Expensive, we’ll be digging into the five biggest feels that keep founders spinning out, riding emotional highs and lows around launch goals and marketing metrics, dancing in and out of our least favorite place: burnout, apathetic, I-think-I-might-hate-my-business land.
I’ll send an essay and some resources on each big feel on Tuesdays, and drop a complementary podcast on my freshly re-launched podcast, The Resonance Effect, on Fridays. Emails will be more theory, podcasts more practice on how to work with and digest each emotion.
Click here to read the essay on comparison and get on my list.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
If comparison keeps derailing your creativity, confidence, or consistency, this episode will help you build a healthier relationship with it. In part two of Emotions Are Expensive, Chelsea guides you through a gentle somatic practice to increase your capacity to feel comparison without spiraling into self-criticism or shutdown. You’ll learn how to anchor back into pride for your own work, regulate the sensations that arise when jealousy or envy hits, and experiment with transforming comparison into collaboration and creative fuel.
IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL LEARN...
- Why comparison hijacks your nervous system and leads to creative shutdown
- How to reconnect with pride in your work to soften envy and judgment
- A guided nervous-system practice to safely feel and move through comparison
- How to reframe comparison as information, not evidence you’re behind
- Two exercises to shift comparison into celebration—or collaboration
- How increasing tolerance for comparison helps you stay visible, generous, and inspired
KEY TAKEAWAYS AND CONCEPTS
Emotional Capacity: comparison only derails you when your system can’t safely feel it
Anchoring in Pride: reconnect to your own excellence before looking outward
Comparison Practice: a guided process to feel envy and judgment without reacting
Reframe: use comparison as data about your desires—not as proof of inadequacy
The Experiment:
Find genuine celebration for someone you’ve compared yourself to
(Level 2) Pitch a collaboration idea to that person or brand
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